My (24F) little sister (21) and brother (19) are in a messed up situation and are asking for my help but i'm in NO position whatsoever to help them out. I feel like an asshole but I don't know what else to do. My sister texts me today saying she needs to talk to me and then goes on to say she broke her lease because she was behind on rent and needs to come stay with me. She stayed with me before she got her apartment and it was horrible. She didn't help with any rent or bills with the exception of buying a few groceries from the store every now and then. Her cat TERRORIZED everyone in the house, she isn't fixed so not only was she attacking my cat and dog, but she tore up the carpet and peed/pooped all over the house. On top of that she would hiss and bite/scratch my partner and I if we tried to separate her. We had to keep our pets locked in the bedroom for 4 months. At night she scratched on our door and made weird noises. My sister did nothing about it. She didn't clean or anything. Now I asked her to explain how she got to the point of breaking her lease and she tells me my litter brother helped her with half in February, but later disputed the payment and it was added on to her March rent so she got behind and broke her lease. This is fucking crazy and i'm upset that he would do something like that. Also the fact that she waited until TODAY to tell me she has until the end of the month to find somewhere to go. Her job isn't paying her enough, brother plays football so you can imagine how much he eats. I told her no because I can't afford to feed and house both of them. We're barely making it as it is. I don't have a job right now and my partner is in school so ANY money we have goes to bills and food. I just don't understand her train of thought and I feel backed into a corner to say yes but neither of us want or need that stress right now. We're literally in the process of moving ourselves because we can no longer afford the rent. I feel fucked up saying no but what can i do for her if i can't do for myself? We have no other family here, our oldest brother just moved out of state and my mother moved out of state in the summer time. I feel stressed and sick. The way she is telling me is like she just gave up and banked on me saying yes. Now i feel like it's my responsibility to fix it.

We all know that Wired controversy, which I will not link to. Rather, I'd like to lay the groundwork for some potential explorations into Sanderson that might be worth an actual in-depth investigatory piece that Sanderson would not be able to answer in a podcast. I will start off with three themes raised in the infamous article. I hope that others follow up with their own ideas.
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1) How does Sanderson's interrogation of religion in his own work reflect a potential struggle with Mormonism? - This is an issue that the author very much wanted to get at, though instead fell into personal attacks, calling Sanderson "extremely Mormon" and what not. However, that is far from the truth, especially insofar as critics bring up the Mormon analogues in his writing. In Elantris, we see the character Hrathen driven by logic and love of order embrace an "ends justify the means" approach to converting an entire nation in order to "save" it. The effort involves bribery, kidnapping, genocide, etc. However, at the end of the day we see that there is eventually a line too far for Hrathen, once the last resort genocide is instead revealed to be part of a planned "glory to Jaddeth" power move. A great many crimes have been justified as being part of a grander holy plan, with Christianity -- including Mormonism -- taking part. Given that Hrathen came from a lawful evil character in one of Sanderson's role playing games, an exploration of how much of this was inspired from personal reflection could be elucidating.
Likewise, my Sanderson-critic friend critiques the Church of the Survivor as a Mormonism stand in. Yet if that is the case, Sanderson has gone on record a number of times mentioning how problematic Kelsier is. Kelsier constantly uses religion to manipulate and con his way into positions of power and an advancement to his agenda. Apparently Kelsier is even responsible indirectly for the rise of the Set, and Autonomy fan girls over him.
If all of the above are true, then it would seem that Sanderson might be trying to deconstruct his own religion and relationship with it. I personally do not know what the true answer is (i.e. I did not make the connection between Kelsier and Joseph Smith like my friend did) but such an angle could be rewarding.
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2) How much of Sanderson's success is due to the man v. the moment? - Another critical angle, with the idea being that Sanderson got lucky with the advent of the MCU, GoT, and cultural desire for extended universes. Insofar as Sanderson is successful, maybe it is because of his simple prose, which might allow him success now, but not in the long term. Following this line of thought, how much does Sanderson acknowledge this possibility, and how does he prepare for the end of the good times? Did his close family and friends from before have different thoughts on the likelihood of his success before he completed the Wheel of Time series?
While Sanderson has answered to some extent this question, an article length piece all in one place could be useful to those who do not religiously watch Sanderson's podcasts. Might also be topically relevant given the issues Marvel has been having of late.
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3) Has Sanderson been a net boon or detriment to newer fantasy authors? - Building upon the initial kickstarter impetus of the article, Sanderson is one of the most prolific and successful fantasy authors. With his secret projects AND standard books, a casual reader could be reading only his books for years without ever reading another author's work. If this is the case, then the possibility exists that Sanderson might be sucking up all the oxygen for new writers to thrive upon. However, Sanderson likewise is using his position to fight for new creator rights against Amazon, Audible, major publishers etc. Some might view Sanderson as the Machiavellian ideal, using his great power to crush the collective good's enemies all the while creating new institutions. Yet to have so much market power rested in one creative's hands alone might do more harm than good. An investigative piece into "objective" net good v harm of Sanderson's positions, along with Sanderson's reflection on the topic could be great. The author of such an article could even sprinkle in some critiques of what's wrong with Sanderson's style, i.e. continuity over prose or some such.
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In any case, these are just some ideas. Journalists at various newspapers might hopefully take a look at these and produce something new and insightful as opposed to coming to the defense of a pretty sloppy Wired writer. I do believe that there is a lot to explore related to Sanderson, even if it's not in a particularly flattering light. I hope that everyone else in and beyond the community can think up ideas to advance new articles on the topic.

Why do they want male validation so bad? I understand this can be rooted from dad issues ect, however I know girls who have amazing relationships with their dad but still seek to impress any and every boy they come across as if boys are so much above them they need to prove them self? And feel so proud if a boy respects them? But not give a fuck about what their girl friends think of them and will constantly say things they think a boy will like. For example my y friend said ‘ronald said I’m the only girl he knows with good music taste’ . For starters, it seems ronald does not think woman can have good music taste, and the fact she was proud he said this? I’d be offended on behalf of the female population if a male said this to me? And when my ex friend would NOT enjoy hangouts unless males where there. Found it impossible to spend time with the girls without desperately finding boys to meet????? WHY? Why and how ….. it shocks me.

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Hi there! I switched from 8mg of the blue oval estrogen pills(can’t remember what they’re called) to 4mg estradiol valerate in the morning 4mg in the evening sublingually. I also switched from 50mg Spiro to 12mg of Cypro daily. I didn’t have much of a drive before hrt and it’s been declining down to nothing over the last 4 years. How do other people deal with this?

I’m two months clean currently, went as much as 6 months clean in the past year but had a few relapses. I think confronting the truth of our addiction (or as close as we can get to it) means so much.
While I do not say this to promote gambling and am careful in how I word this, there is always the potential that you could start with $10, turn it into $100, then $1000, then whatever number that would clear your debts or sounds amazing to you. There is even then the possibility that after all of that winning streak, you would find a way to not engage with gambling anymore.
The problem is statistically the chance of anything like that happening to you is so low. Our emotional perception of statistics doesn’t help us on this point though.
3700 people die every day in car accidents worldwide. Does that fact stop us from driving? Yet we can literally look up the odds on these slots, blackjack, and other games and see our chances of winning is so low that unless you are playing with house money, gambling is truly not going to net you profit at the end of the day, in all likelihood.
Yet still there is that rare thought in the back of the mind “but what if I am the one”, what if I do hit that streak and I do manage to quit. That’s the thought that can cause relapses. But fundamentally, even if there is a chance you could be “the one” the odds of you winning and not giving it back are so insanely low that you need to remind yourself of this with logic.
Seek help locally, groups, therapy, telling family. I couldn’t have gotten this far and minimized the damage I’ve done if I didn’t seek help beyond myself. This addiction thrives in secrecy so sharing the load with others will make you more relieved and give you a better path to long term success. This addiction is a heavy one and it’s easy for it to make you feel like it’s too heavy to bare but the truth is you are far stronger than this addiction and on the other side of this addiction can be a person who becomes even stronger by having gone through the trials and tribulations and overcoming them. One day, one moment, one second at a time. It’s not easy but it’s possible. The power is within you to decide what you will do. You can do it.

My 2 yr old BC mix is digging sooo many holes in our backyard. I feel absolutely horrible bc we have an infant at home and it’s been winter in WI - I just haven’t been exercising or even playing with her as much as she’s used to, so I know she’s digging out of boredom. I want to get her a sandbox and am curious how you all have trained your dogs to only dig there! Do I need to stop letting her free roam outside until she’s learned? We have a fenced in yard so she’s been able to come and go as she pleases.

Hey there everyone, I never know how to start these, so I am just going to jump right into it! My name is Austin, I am 30 years old and I live in Orlando, FL!
I am trying to find my person and best friend through life. I want to be able to create a safe emotional space for the two of us in the relationship and to be able to have so much fun together. From being vulnerable and open by talking about our feelings to silly and fun watching YouTube or sharing memes! I want to have a family and kids so if that isn’t for you no problem, it isn’t for everyone!
A quick breakdown of things I like:
Cooking
Video Games
TV/Anime/Movies
Going to the gym or Batting Cages (I used to play baseball)
Playing with my cat and dog (Licorice and Wade)
Playing my trumpet (recently started again from high school)
Music is a huge part of my life and always will be. If it could be considered a love language it would be my number one! I love sharing playlists or being excited to talk about artists we both love etc. My favorite genres would include (but are not limited to); Rock, Metal, EDM, Punk, Musicals. What are some of your favorites? Top 3 artists?
Please read my entire post, I cannot handle those that just respond and expect me to do the heavy lifting in conversation. I want someone to be as invested in me as I would be them!
Here is me! https://imgur.com/a/fWbSRr4

I’m two months clean currently, went as much as 6 months clean in the past year but had a few relapses. I think confronting the truth of our addiction (or as close as we can get to it) means so much.
While I do not say this to promote gambling and am careful in how I word this, there is always the potential that you could start with $10, turn it into $100, then $1000, then whatever number that would clear your debts or sounds amazing to you. There is even then the possibility that after all of that winning streak, you would find a way to not engage with gambling anymore.
The problem is statistically the chance of anything like that happening to you is so low. Our emotional perception of statistics doesn’t help us on this point though.
3700 people die every day in car accidents worldwide. Does that fact stop us from driving? Yet we can literally look up the odds on these slots, blackjack, and other games and see our chances of winning is so low that unless you are playing with house money, gambling is truly not going to net you profit at the end of the day, in all likelihood.
Yet still there is that rare thought in the back of the mind “but what if I am the one”, what if I do hit that streak and I do manage to quit. That’s the thought that can cause relapses. But fundamentally, even if there is a chance you could be “the one” the odds of you winning and not giving it back are so insanely low that you need to remind yourself of this with logic.
Seek help locally, groups, therapy, telling family. I couldn’t have gotten this far and minimized the damage I’ve done if I didn’t seek help beyond myself. This addiction thrives in secrecy so sharing the load with others will make you more relieved and give you a better path to long term success. This addiction is a heavy one and it’s easy for it to make you feel like it’s too heavy to bare but the truth is you are far stronger than this addiction and on the other side of this addiction can be a person who becomes even stronger by having gone through the trials and tribulations and overcoming them. One day, one moment, one second at a time. It’s not easy but it’s possible. The power is within you to decide what you will do. You can do it.

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• Wordpress.com
• Shopify & other cart website
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• Wix

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• Social Media (Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter etc)
• Reddit itself, YouTube
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• Analytics etc

Can cover JS heavy and Python tasks
More to offer...

• Redesign websites, recode to be updated with the current web standards
• You can provide me with a design/pages, (or logo/branding) done by a designer and I will code it with pixel perfect alignments, colors, and all the details. It will not be butchered! And your designer will be impressed how close it was done! 100% guaranteed
• Integration to any application, software, script or API/3rd party to your website (provide link to docs)
• All websites will be deployed to a live server by me as necessary (every step is covered! no hassle on your end, what ever type of project it is in.)
• Any content/type of website is accepted (except illegal, used for scamming -big no)
• I will complete projects and not leave you about % halfway through the project
• Transparency -if I cannot do a complex task
• Daily response to emails or chat, update every 2-3 days
• Fast turnaround, perfect for those looking to get things done in a reasonable amount of time
• Asia service provider, proficient and clear communication. and I offer flexible rates!
• USD / PayPal / Wise and more, I also accept crypto payments
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Today I want to write my vision of the near future facing humanity in the next decade.
The progress of Artificial Intelligence continues. His achievements are increasingly covering the material sphere of life. Soon, we will all be able to see firsthand the new generation of synthetic robots performing everyday tasks. But how exactly will this be implemented?
First, the first AI platforms will appear. Conventionally, these platforms will have sections for each robot separately. In 2023-25, massive humanoid robots with legs, arms and hands will already appear. The most popular models will have millions of sales, and will be the largest ecosystem for them. In each section of an individual robot, Models will be presented for its behavior in various situations. You can imagine a robot as a phone, then its section is its operating system, and the robot's behavior models are applications that can be installed and removed on it. The robot can be taught yoga, cooking, delivery and fishing, these will be independent models of behavior, which the robot can either train independently, or download a ready-made model according to the rating level. It is long and expensive to train the robot yourself, but over time, training will require less time and data, which will allow you to generate these models on the fly, but only for the simplest tasks, be it floor cleaning. Complex tasks will take a longer time to master, and then the question of a more effective choice will arise - to learn quickly some task yourself, if a ready-made model of this task does not yet exist at all, or download a ready-made one. In addition, the structure of the operating system is very important, but it will be easy and understandable for everyone. The robot itself will wait for commands in standby mode. When it receives a command, it converts the voice into text, tries to isolate the meaning from the text, just like Google search is doing it now, comparing it with Action Models. If the model is found, the robot performs the action, having previously specified the initial criteria for the selected task. If the action model is not found in the robot's memory, the robot invites the owner to create his own or download it from the Internet. Behaviors such as painting walls, washing floors, cooking will be widespread, have many alternatives, and possibly even be used in parallel. Some complex tasks, including working at a computer for a robot, or, for example, repairing a computer, will need to train a lot of time and spend a lot of energy on them, which will be available at first only to the largest companies, then to medium-sized ones, and after a while to everyone, as of how teaching methods will get cheaper. At some point, even incredibly complex tasks can be mastered in the shortest possible time, but more complex ones will appear, the complexity of the tasks and the speed of learning these tasks will increase exponentially over time. Today the largest companies train robots for the simplest tasks. The number of companies will keep growing, training will keep getting cheaper, and robots will get smarter. The trend cannot be stopped.
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I am sure, less then in 2 years AI companies will make AI that can control humanoid bot, which can do any human hand work. This means only one thing. When they will make 100 such bots, this bots will double every 1-3 months. By 2030, we can have 1 Million-1Billion such robots, which will make everything and change our life LIKE NOTHING BEFORE !
For example, they will produce all food for everyone, but NOT only food. Fabric production will become not just automated, but robotized with universal clever humanoid workers.
Also they can do some landscaping and environmental management. But wait.
Remember what I tell you in the beginning? If they can do everthing, they will making new factories to produce themselves MORE and MORE. This is not like electrocars. 1 electrocar cant produce other 2 electocars. If 1000 robots can produce factory that can produce 10000 robots per year, then 1 robot can produce 10 per year. You guys know what I mean ? Exponential grow of robot population in this decade. And this is not a funny joke, this soon will be our reality.
Oh cmon, but how much robots we REALLY need ? Somebody will say 100000 robots per city will be FAR enough to cover all the needs of the city and will absolutely right. BUT. What we really want from our life ? I mean, in near future we all will all have a certain resource. Resource, that humanity never have before. We can call it ABILITY TO CREATE. Create almost without borders. So, after we cover all our ordinary needs, what we will do next ? What is humanity really capable of with such power?
Mega projects. Yep, this things will be next after working humanoid robot revolution. After day, then count of robots will more then 1 billion, things will change really fast. Making new islands in pacific sea near Hawaii ? Of coures. How much people want to live on Maldives ? What if we can create Maldives the size of Eurasia in the Pacific? They would accommodate 2 times more people than they currently live on earth.
God only knows what incredible things we can create in this century. But the truth is, we can't even imagine it all. We got so caught up in films about the future that we forgot that the present future is actually UNKNOWN to us and most likely it WILL NOT look like what we CAN imagine. This fact fascinates me every time.
And I will not tire of asserting that the beginning of this will be laid already in this decade. Very soon, the first robot will come off the assembly line, understanding your commands and simply executing them. At this point, you can safely say that this is the beginning of singularity.
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Actual articles was writen by me 2 years ago:
https://www.reddit.com/singularity/comments/k0csiabsolute_robotization/
https://www.reddit.com/Futurology/comments/jp6o30/how_humanoid_robots_will_make_impact_in_nea
I still have this optimistic vision of the future and feel that my predictions are coming true before my eyes.
I want to share these articles with new members /r singularity because so many good people have joined us over the last year

Recently I've been struggling more, during what felt like a stagnation in the development of my life and my path.
I felt like, and have been for many years, that there were certain blind spots, black holes I call them that I could not find the origin of.
Trying to heal my trauma's and moving forward, but always feeling like there was an aswer to a question I could not think of.
Not understanding why I have always felt my emotions so itensly, both love and pain. The suffering of others, the injustice in this world and the pain that follows.
And recently many joyfull and painfull lessons have been learned in rapid succesion.
The following experience was after sitting with my thoughts on how to proceed, specially since my mother has fallen ill in one of the worst ways. My intention was clear, will she be alright and what can I do?
I begin.
There is this woman, kneeling next to me. I can't see her face but I know she's beautiful. She notices my compliment, stops for a moment and continues.
She dances and shows me walls of information passed on from time. Books and scrolls from times long past. Ancient scriptures, with signs and symbols I don't understand. And that is it, I don't understand.
The showcase of this knowledge is chaotic, thrown around like a whirlwind and out of reach, a representation of my neverending quest for knowledge about the world, the people and myself.
Upon this realisation of my endless persuit of this, she shows me some dark spots, where the books and it's stories are missing, hidden. These spots are as black as can be, and I can feel they represent pain. But they are also the parts of myself I don't understand.
As she lifts me up I break through a layer of dense clouds, and am shown a world I have never seen before. A vast desert, with an ocean as far as the eye can see. It is warm and dry, but the water cools the air.
A man young man appears, he is my age. This is his homeland, this is where he was born. But he's been torn away from his home, from his people, from his place in this world. He has seen much suffering in others and the world around. He has seen death, he has seen dispair.
He screams out in agony, as he sees everything he loves lost before his eyes. Yet, he keeps fighting for what he holds dear and for what is right.
In the midst of the turmoil that is his life, there is only one thing that gives him peace, as the arm from the love of his life wraps around him.
She holds him tight, supports him as she tries to ease his suffering. She is just as strong as he is, but she suffers like he does. The two are connected in life and beyond.
I can tell they have been through hell and back together, and that it only made them stronger. As they slowly fade away into the clouds, so do I. I can still hear the echo's of his screams, as she pulls him to safety.
The black hole that was my lack of understanding about the intensity of my emotion is now filled, as I understand this previous life. And with that, also the trauma and suffering that he and she were not able to heal.
I spend the next little while tending to this wounded soul, as my hand becomes hers and I decide to carry his life with me, and try to heal what I can.
This woman he was with is something I'm still trying to find, perhaps in time.
I did not get any insight on how to do something for my mother, as I already know how, and if she will be alright is a question for the worrying soul.
But he and she have shown me why I feel what I feel, do what I do, am who I am.
Trauma and suffering carries on from generation to generation, from person to person, from life to life, and leaves wounds sometimes difficult to grasp and understand. But, in this pain lies an endless potential for love and understanding.
Thanks for reading 🙏

All my life, I only have fallen in love with the typical bad boy type. They were very centered on themselves and emotionally unavailable for some reason. I've spent most of my life in very long relationships in which I gave up myself trying to make them work. The last one ended in November 2022. Since then, I have started to live my life, not worrying about relationships at all. Just started doing all I ever wanted but had never allowed myself because it'd hurt my SO. Last month, I started taking ballroom dance classes and met this guy. He's completely different from all the other men I ever dated. He's kind, laughs a lot, and is patient when I struggle to do something. When he's the one struggling, he accepts my help. We're supposed to change partners during class, but he and I end up together most of the time, and I'm not the one seeking it. I really had no ulterior motives when we started interacting, I just went there to learn how to dance. We started talking while dancing, and we have a lot in common. He sometimes says something, and I feel like he knows me already. Some common things such as enjoying one song in particular or playing video games. But others less common things, like not being jealous at all or enjoying a specific plate of a little known restaurant. I'm not really thinking this is a "ment to be" stuff, I'm skeptical about anything in life. These are only some examples of the things that are leading me to put my guard down.
But, as the title says, he has mentioned a girlfriend. Twice.
I'm not acting on it. But how can I fight this? I was so fine when I just didn't know that men could be this nice. Really, I never felt this comfortable being myself, ever. How do I get over this feeling before it takes my mind and makes me miserable?
TLDR: I'm falling for a kind guy after being into bad boys my whole life, but he has a girlfriend. How do I stop falling in love?

I consider any form of cheating as a deal breaker, physical or emotional etc.
Long story: Gf had a friend from Tinder, they hung out once (6 months before we got together) and apparently it was awkward ASF and they never hung out again. One day I asked her if she had spoken to him or if they still talked and she replied "no, we haven't really talked in months". Well long story short I end up checking her phone for a different reason and discovered he texted her 2 weeks after we got together and said "if you're ever in Atlanta, you should visit me" - to which she replied "HELL YE I WILL" and another week after that he drunkenly texted her how much of a great friend she is and she replied "huh what" and that was the last time they spoke. And that was the end of the conversation. The last time before that they spoke the day before our first date and she was telling him how excited she was to hangout with me (also the next day we started dating after the date because we really hit it off)
Well, I check her phone because of a misunderstanding (which was my fault) and discovered those texts. Anyway (she doesn't know I seen those) I point it out to her his chat icon on insta and she's just like "oh that's my friend so &so, we used to hangout". Well then because of the misunderstanding we had last week she ended up deleting the chat without me knowing, and so I make her read back everything to me and she skipped over the " if you're ever in Atlanta you should visit me" , and I freaked out and told her how inappropriate that was and she ended up blocking him and apologizing to me. ( Also when ever I asked what happened to the chat she told me truth and said she deleted it because we were together for only a month and said she didn't know my boundaries so she got scared and deleted it, but had no I'll intentions.
This made me overthink and check her Snapchat while she was away. I then discovered someone added that wasn't appeared on the Snapchat feed so I accused her of adding and deleting the chat to which she says she has never done that because she "understands it hurt my feelins last time and she wouldn't wanna put me through that again". I have seen her Snapchat glitch beforehand and have someone who was already added appear on the recently added but not show up before, but the snap score wasnt there, but added? . ( But this guy had a snap score, but when I check their conversation history and seen 0 interactions between them). I then downloaded her data and seen *delete and add" for that user, but, the initial friendship was from 2021 so I think it may have been a glitch, or maybe he readded her and that's why it appeared??? And reappeard on recently added without the chat box? Well come to find out it was an old highschool acquaintance - who used to date one of her friends in highschool, but she says she thinks shes never spoken with him or texted him before. Whilst looking at her data I also discovered she blocked 6 guys in the first month we were dating... But I only knew of 4 of them..
My gf have been together 8 months and after we got together I found a something written that said "I'm glad we me, we started talking again" but it had a different guys name, i know it was written before we started dating but it still kinda hurt.
Then a few days later I found the dudes Instagram and they weren't following each other but I found a like on a post of his ( from 10 days before we got together) and I kinda flipped out on my gf and told her a bunch of things, I said she was a lair, accused her of possibly cheating, and how I was probably just a little rebound and how she probably was just using me, and that she better not have messaged him at all while we've been together...
As long as it was before we were together I don't care, she says that she unfollowed him before and hasn't talked to him ever since we got together or was just in the talking stage.
But now I'm accusing her of talking to him and deleting the chat while we're together because I've never seen the chat with them.
I have have no evidence she texted him, I don't even remember seeing a text chat from him. But it was 10 days before we got together so I accused her of deleting the chat so I asked to see her Instagram data to which she replied "yeah", ( she was at work ) then when we see each other she was like " you didn't even listen OR consider how I felt during all those awful things you said" and bursted out crying lecturing me on how badly I hurt her feelings and how I need to be more considerate and how she didn't like me comparing her to my ex and how she was mad at me and how "toxic" it was to request this of her. I told her it was sus that she would call it toxic.
She then explain why it's disrespectful to her even though we have an open phone policy for this. Said it reminded her of her dad and mom's toxic relationship of what I did.
We get home and basically she locked herself in the bathroom and vomits cause she so "stressed". So I threatened to message the guy if she didn't let me see and she came out and said I was being unnecessary.
And I was like oh so you must be hiding something then we had a huge conversation about how she doesn't want to be toxic and wanted me to be the man she married one day, but what I was doing was toxic and she was scared of that and explained she lost a bit of respect for me and that she doesn't wanna break up but for me to reflect on my actions and treat her better for what I did and how I should just trust her. I then said yeah I trust you and she was like " no you think you do, but you really don't or else you wouldn't be asking something toxic like this.". I never ending up looking at it because I started to feel bad...
She always is eager to give me reassurance and is always calm about it to, but she says I can ask her for reassurance as much as I need. Says she's never hurt me, or ever have done anything that can be deemed as trustworthy, and we talked about it and she said everything I've assumed has been untrue and it hurts her feelings and just wants me to think logically instead of emotional. I told her today *I don't know if I can trust you" to which she replied calmly " that's okay, it's gonna take time but I love you so much and we'll get there one day "
TL;Dr I just need advice

I'm known as what you call an overachiever. I push myself way too much and never give myself a break whatsoever. I push my legs to the point I have to lean on the wall once I get home or I'll collapse on the ground. I've gotten high grades but they still don't make me satisfied whatsoever. My friends say I'm making this too hard for myself but I don't see how, I see everything that I'm doing not even the bare minimum. Along with working myself to the core, I don't eat a whole lot. So I push myself with no food in my stomach... Am I afraid that it'll cause my death? A little.

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Recently I've been struggling more, during what felt like a stagnation in the development of my life and my path.
I felt like, and have been for many years, that there were certain blind spots, black holes I call them that I could not find the origin of.
Trying to heal my trauma's and moving forward, but always feeling like there was an aswer to a question I could not think of.
Not understanding why I have always felt my emotions so itensly, both love and pain. The suffering of others, the injustice in this world and the pain that follows.
And recently many joyfull and painfull lessons have been learned in rapid succesion.
The following experience was after sitting with my thoughts on how to proceed, specially since my mother has fallen ill in one of the worst ways. My intention was clear, will she be alright and what can I do?
I begin.
There is this woman, kneeling next to me. I can't see her face but I know she's beautiful. She notices my compliment, stops for a moment and continues.
She dances and shows me walls of information passed on from time. Books and scrolls from times long past. Ancient scriptures, with signs and symbols I don't understand. And that is it, I don't understand.
The showcase of this knowledge is chaotic, thrown around like a whirlwind and out of reach, a representation of my neverending quest for knowledge about the world, the people and myself.
Upon this realisation of my endless persuit of this, she shows me some dark spots, where the books and it's stories are missing, hidden. These spots are as black as can be, and I can feel they represent pain. But they are also the parts of myself I don't understand.
As she lifts me up I break through a layer of dense clouds, and am shown a world I have never seen before. A vast desert, with an ocean as far as the eye can see. It is warm and dry, but the water cools the air.
A man young man appears, he is my age. This is his homeland, this is where he was born. But he's been torn away from his home, from his people, from his place in this world. He has seen much suffering in others and the world around. He has seen death, he has seen dispair.
He screams out in agony, as he sees everything he loves lost before his eyes. Yet, he keeps fighting for what he holds dear and for what is right.
In the midst of the turmoil that is his life, there is only one thing that gives him peace, as the arm from the love of his life wraps around him.
She holds him tight, supports him as she tries to ease his suffering. She is just as strong as he is, but she suffers like he does. The two are connected in life and beyond.
I can tell they have been through hell and back together, and that it only made them stronger. As they slowly fade away into the clouds, so do I. I can still hear the echo's of his screams, as she pulls him to safety.
The black hole that was my lack of understanding about the intensity of my emotion is now filled, as I understand this previous life. And with that, also the trauma and suffering that he and she were not able to heal.
I spend the next little while tending to this wounded soul, as my hand becomes hers and I decide to carry his life with me, and try to heal what I can.
This woman he was with is something I'm still trying to find, perhaps in time.
I did not get any insight on how to do something for my mother, as I already know how, and if she will be alright is a question for the worrying soul.
But he and she have shown me why I feel what I feel, do what I do, am who I am.
Trauma and suffering carries on from generation to generation, from person to person, from life to life, and leaves wounds sometimes difficult to grasp and understand. But, in this pain lies an endless potential for love and understanding.
Thanks for reading 🙏

So. Im gonna be honest, im kinda ashamed im into this. But I love it. During the last week ive been questioning beginning my weight gain because of how people will react and my own health. But after thinking for a while about this, im 100% sure i want to do this now. Ive set a goal for myself to hit 250lbs in the next year or 2. Along with this im gonna up my calorie intake by a ton, aiming for 5000-10000 a day, so I can gain the most I can. Im gonna be eating as much food as I can. All of my favourites too, like pizza, pasta, chicken and more. Im also gonna drink a lot more soda and milkshakes. My diet will basically now just make me incredibly fat lol. Its gonna be hard with school and everything but im gonna do it and stay dedicated to this. I wanna be as fat as I possibly can. Ill give updates as much as I can for you all.