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2023.03.24 23:01 Acton67 I'm going to be a first time Dad

My fiance and I bought a house in 2021, are getting married in May, and are expecting our first child in September. I'm 35, and I work in the ER as an RN. I've been a travel nurse for the past year and I recently accepted a permanent position in the ER I'm currently in as a traveler. They've got great benefits and I'll be able to bring my soon to be wife there to have our baby delivered for no cost to us since I'm an employee. She's currently seeing an OBGYN at this facility and everything has been going great. She's 13 weeks, all the blood work looks good and the ultrasound looks great.
I found out last week that we're having a boy! Honestly I was hoping for a girl and now I've got this overwhelming anxiety, depression and dread that I can't get past. I'm autistic and I've dealt with bullying and depression my whole life. I also grew up in foster care. My whole life has been a struggle. I have a hard time making friends and fitting in with people, I really struggled when I was younger. I was told I was "high functioning" and I was good at brushing off the bullies but I'm not sure how I'll be able to handle it if my son has to go through any of it. I worry that my son will struggle with the same things. I hoped that if I had a girl, chances would be less she'd be like me. Life is incredibly hard for boys these days. My nephew and younger brother have threatened suicide multiple times. Both struggle with drugs. I watched my nephew grow up and tried so hard to help him but nothing changed anything.
It's so important to develop strong social skills and to make friends and network in society today and I don't know that I'll be able to teach him these skills. I know his mom will help with this but to be honest she struggles with these issues too. I feel so guilty knowing that I might have passed my autism to my son.
Every day I feel like an imposter in my own life and I constantly feel like it's just a matter of time until I'm showed the door at work because I'm not well liked. I worked so hard in school, I was high honors and had a 4.0 GPA, but that's typical of most individuals with aspergers syndrome. I thought working in Healthcare would help balance me out and it has, but it's so cut throat with bullying and work place politics that I'm not sure I've come far enough. And now my problems are going to be this child's problems.
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2023.03.24 20:47 crypticmona Should I even have a wedding with a dysfunctional family?

I 23F just got engaged to my fiancé 23M. His family loves us both and are very supportive of our relationship. My family is currently going through a nasty divorce, having to deal with poverty, and also a brother who just came back from being at rehab for drug abuse and mental health issues.
My mom 47F, my sister 30F, older brother 27M, and younger brother 8M live together, my dad 52M moved out about three years ago. I moved out when I was 18 to go to college in a different state. Truthfully, it was an opportunity to escape that hell hole, the mental and emotional abuse of my mother, all the turmoil and drama. I made my way through college without their help, got everything paid for by full ride scholarships, even did a masters which granted me another year away from them and time to think about my next move. All the while I became a better person, I learned, and grew into my own person. By the time I graduated with a masters, I was with my bf for 5 years. We met in college. I ended up moving in with him because I could not deal with the trauma of going back home. I have aspirations and goals and I could not go back, my life would be on hold.
We’re now engaged. Mom and sis freaked out on me since they’re very traditional and religious, called me all sorts of things including being a prostitute for living together before marriage. I’m not in good terms with my mom, sister, and older brother. I’ve recently started talking to my dad after going no contact for other people (mom and sis shunned me). It’s the “he was a good dad but bad husband” type of deal. Out of everyone, he’s supported me the most. Now we’re in a dilemma of whether or not to have a wedding.
My fiance and I deep down would love a wedding and want to go through the experience. But then we think about my family and then I just don’t want to have one because I really don’t want them there. But if I don’t invite them, there’s gonna be drama, even from my extended family on my moms side. Also, I don’t want to have a wedding with my family present because there’s this obvious awkwardness between fiance and my family (interracial relationship) that I just don’t wanna deal with as well. I also will not be truly happy without my dad there, and I don’t want to not invite him for the comfort of my mom and sister, who have been the ones who have treated me like shit.
I just don’t know what to do. But we want a wedding, and we want his grandparents there since they’re getting old and he’s the oldest grandson. I want a dress, I want to walk down the aisle, I want to read him my vows, and I want to spend the day with people that I cherish.
What do we do??
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2023.03.24 19:52 RealityRanter '90 Day Fiance': Jen Boecher Responds to Drug Use Accusations

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2023.03.24 18:46 concernedbrother9385 My sister is neglecting her children but DCFS/OCS won't investigate since it does not meet their criteria.

I apologize if this is the wrong sub and if someone has a better suggestion please let me know. I was wondering if anyone has any advice of where I can go from here. I made the awful decision of filing a neglect report on my sister through DCFS and OCS. They sent me a letter stating they will not pursue an investigation because it does not meet their criteria. I don't know if I can appeal this or report it to someone else or something.
My sister is neglecting her children. They are not in school at ages 7 and 5 and have never been enrolled. Supposedly they are being homeschooled but I doubt it. My sister split with her fiance, the father of two children, over six months ago and still is not working. They are living in filthy conditions as can be seen in the pictures. Two of the pictures are bedrooms, one a living room and the fourth is the garage. She discontinued trash service so everything is going in the garage now. I am not really familiar with imgur but I think it worked. They didn't even have shoes until our mother bought them some in November. My sister has a third child who chooses to live with his dad because of how disgusting it is.
As far as I know there is no drug use or abuse and this is why I think DCFS didn't act. However, my sister is definitely an alcoholic.
I think my sister is severely depressed and needs a lot of help. Her life has not gone great for her. But she has cut everyone off. She doesn't talk to anyone and she told her immediate family that she was going to take the kids and leave and no one would be able to find her.
Is there anything I can do here? Anyone else I can report this to?
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2023.03.24 17:34 Demonicking101 We Need a Deathworlder! Pt 60

Chapter Sixty: Personal Revelations, Potential Rescues
“What button I press?” Nodrin asks as they stare down at their hardlight controller. The first person view of their section of screen continuously runs at knee high ledge.
“Green trigger.” Troy informs as he intentionally spared the struggling Gratt in his lines of sight.
Nodrin’s perspective leaps stiffly but successfully over the ledge. Then to only see their character splatter on the floor from the great unseen height.
Calmly, the Gratt places their controller down and excuses themselves from the game.
“Game not for me. I watch.” they inform.
Trying his best to stifle a laugh Troy nods.
“Don’t worry about it, we’ll try something more your speed after I crush lil’ miss grenade spammer here…” he teases the female Gratt who is currently hyper focused on the combat game.
Although Meeki has obviously spent the vast majority of her life being completely ignorant to what a ‘vid-game’ is, she has taken to it like a Cali to kul dew gravy. Her skills however… are still developing as she leans heavily on the simple but effective tactics. Though she also spared her bondmate from being easy pickings to increase her score, her loyalty to them still overwrites the growing need to claim victory over her Terran friend. She knows that Troy is going easy on her, as his direct confrontations have almost always been in his favor. While her kills were basically nuking an entire room with tossed explosives as he’d enter.
Running through the digital halls, Troy keeps an eye on the radius radar tracker, almost regretting telling Meeki that crouching made her all but invisible to him. But that meant she moved slowly, so all he had to do was blitz through the map he knew all too well and hound her down-
His character’s head erupts into a red mist explosion as a grenade meets it seemingly out of nowhere.
“Wait- what?” he says aloud in a moment of shock before Meeki chiters sharply in giddy glee.
“Bounced it off walls to you!” she reveals.
“Ooohh… Nice! That’s hard to do!” Troy complements, realizing it must have been a stroke of luck.
Getting back into it he respawns and continues on with his previous plan, only to have his guts spill out in a concussive blast as a grenade bounced off a interior tree limb from the plaza next door, rebounded off the doorway to the floor, which it then sailed right up into his character’s abdomen.
Baffled, the Terran shakes himself loose and leans forward before he respawns again.
Okay… no more mister nice guy…” he chuckles.
He prioritizes trying to track where his foe currently camped out, he is ahead by quite a few points so he can spare a couple reckless deaths to help triangulate.
Again and again he found himself being obliterated by absurdly trick-shot explosives. Concern grows as the match gradually becomes more even in score, but he figures that the Gratt must have perched herself up high with a vantage point to where she can- nope, nothing.
Troy’s legs blow out from underneath him as a grenade rolls right in front of his path as if expertly predicted.
Very much starting to question if this industrial revolution era Gratt figured out how to find and utilize illegal cheat software, he presses his head against the controller while the score comes to a tie. He racks his brain for any sensible explanation. Is he actually just bad at this game? Or is Meeki some sort of progeny with throwing timed explosives?
Finally, while being ultra stealthy on his part, Troy on a whim glanced downward in an exposed and accessible sewer grate.
Blasting his rifle in a blazing fury of vengeance he guns at the revealed opponent.
Meeki squeals in laughter while physically jumping in her seat as she panics to run away from the Terran deeper in the narrow tunnels.
Troy mentally kicks himself for not realizing that this entire time she was sneaking around under him and tossing grenades up in the various floor openings on the map. The trick shots are all still stupidly impressive, but not quite the impossible mastery as he started to previously assume. It also explains where she keeps getting all these grenades, as each entrance had a respawning pair ready to be scooped up.
“Got you!” He laughs as he gives chase into the tunnel network, only for the Gratt’s earlier method of engagement to return.
As soon as he drops down, the Terran recognizes his grave error just before the whole narrow tunnel is nothing but fire, shockwaves and shrapnel.
Shaking his head he readies himself to counter Meeki’s uncovered plan of attack in a much smarter approach, but his view is obstructed by a ‘MATCH OVER’ text and revealing the female Gratt as victorious by a single point.
Troy is caught off guard by this because the scores are not at the final end-match goal, but he leans back in a drawn sigh noticing the match timer has come to an end. Unable to hold frustration for more than a few seconds, it drains from the man as he looks over at the celebrating Meeki practically wrestling with Nodrin in her excitement. Who in turn is hyped up by some Gratt emotional osmosis. Well, that or Nodrin simply loved seeing their bondmate so thrilled.
For a moment, Troy’s mind wanders to a place it almost never indepthly ventures to because it was always second nature without thinking. It’s a good place, close to his core as a person. Making people smile and laugh brought him immeasurable self-value and comfort. It brings him back to a place that was hazy in detail, but clear in feeling. Him and his mom spending time together watching comedy shows, movies, vids…
That woman could make the most sullen heart laugh, as she often did in the area Troy had to grow up. Not having much to their name, questionable neighbors, dubiously cheap vendors, being too close to a life-ending occurrence on a too frequent basis… through it all she’d make a light in any darkness.
Suddenly he’s ripped free from his zoning out by two Gratt tackling him from the side.
In his laughing resistance he pushed himself up and back to maintain a height advantage, but Nodrin moved around and yanked, causing all three to fall back over the circular couch and down to the floor in a tumbling pile.
“Aren’t you two supposed to be taking it easy?” Brandy cautions the Gratt like an overprotective parent.
“We careful and drugs hide pain.” Nodrin assured truthfully as this really is the duo being careful by their standards. Full-on Gratt social wrestling is usually far more chaotic.
Uh-huh… you doing alright there Troy?’ Brandy redirects to the Terran now under the two mischievous space-goblins.
“Oh yeah, this ain’t nothin’!” he reports with a thumbs up.
“Okay… well, I’m heading out to meet up with Devin and Thorn. Might be out all night, can I trust you three nut-cases being here unsupervised?” she teases as she adjusts her clothes.
“Yeah, where are ya going out to do?” Troy inquires for clarification.
“There’s some stuff going on with a few politicians that seems pretty suspect. Has nothing to do with us, but it may garner vital support for our local Princess if we involve ourselves. Devin will be on standby if anything happens while we’re out.” Brandy answers.
“Ah… no way I can help then… gotcha.” Troy replies with a vertical nod.
“Actually… Thorn asked if you were available… but I said you weren't.” Brandy reveals.
“Huh? Why?” the man questions in surprise.
Brandy looks over the three with an unreadable yet knowing expression.
“Because you aren’t. Have fun, your pizza should be here soon so keep an ear out.” the woman rolled her amused eyes as she headed towards the exit.
“Aright… Good luck!” Troy responds as he combats the duo from completely pinning him to the floor.
“Bye!” Meeki called out in a grunt as the woman fully left.
At the sound of the door fully sealing the Gratts manage to overwhelm the Terran jock in a pin while atop of him. Their tails each coil around his legs to render them unmovable and both of their pairs of arms are more of a match for Troy’s by himself.
“One day we beat Simone like this!” Nodrin snickers as they let off pressure with Meeki.
“Doubt it…” Troy chuckles as he stretches his freed arms up past his head, “That lady is a football team’s wet dream. Crazy she only really played baseball.”
“Aw… wish we brought ball…’ Nodrin mentions, their voice trailing off a bit.
“Yeah me too… though the others are probably relieved.” Troy points out, “Not like I have the best reputation with collateral damage.”
“You destroy things by mistake much?” Meeki asks.
“Well sure, everyone does. I just happen to do it a bit more… openly.” Troy says.
“Much like us, we act openly. Though Gratt are… uhm… what is word… ‘hyper’? And we have learned that is seen as aggression-trait. Dangerous to be near. We are careful and have not harm anyone we do not intend, but suppressing ‘Gratt’ expression is… difficult. We bond with social physical manners, like wrestle. We of course not do without permission, especially from other peoples… but…” Nodrin replies in a gradually saddening tone, “I worry Gratt will not be accepted by stars much. That no matter of what we explain or show we are not harmful Gratt will just be dismissed as a ‘Deathworlder’ to much avoid. Future of Gratt… more uncertain with more I see of the stars.”
Troy listens and nods along to the Gratt’s dower venting.
“Is it cool if I give some advice? You know, from a Terran -well, really ‘Troy’- perspective?” he inquires.
“Yes.” Nodrin nods.
“Only give a shit to what matters. That is to say… It doesn’t matter worrying about how much someone is going to judge you, because they’re gonna do it anyway. You know? Don’t sacrifice your energy on folks that aren't going to give you a chance in the first place that could be spent more on yourself and giving back to the universe in the ways that matter. Let dumbass-jerks avoid you, both of your lives are better for it. You can keep up a facade of who people want you to be all you want, but it’s only going to give them a reason to call you disingenuous or something like that later when they find out the ‘truth’. Just be yourselves and who you are. That way you’re only surrounded and supported by people who you know like you. Like me, I think you two are freak’n awesome! Like, I know politics have their own rules and shit, but on the day-to-day as people interact with you and your people is how social acceptance or whatever it’s called is done. Just keep being your amazing hyper big-hearted selves and things will probably work out. And hey, if the don’t you’ll always at least have me in your corner!” the Terran says with both confidence and a bit of a struggle to find the right words to pull from his head.
“You guys good?” he then asks as he notices that Nodrin’s expression seems confused, and Meeki… had been staring at him nonstop with her own four vibrant yellow eyes since halfway through his ‘advice’. Which at this point he starts to feel like his words were not all that helpful for their situation. He deems such as ‘far enough’ since half the time whenever he opens his mouth that tends to be the case.
The female blinks as if snapped out of something, but instead of answering she turns to her bondmate in an identical confused look to theirs.
Still not fully freed from the Gratt pile, Troy looks back and forth at the couple sitting on top of him with their surprisingly strong tails still tightly gripping his legs. He lays there allowing the two to engage in what sounds like a very serious chittering conversation. Wanting to test his knowledge of the Gratt language he deactivates his translator though unfortunately he’s absolutely clueless as to what the topic between the two can possibly be.
After a while of this otherwise unbothered, Troy rests his head on his crossed arms and simply waits.
“Troy…” Nodrin finally speaks up, although there seems to be no resolution in their expression.
Finally happy to be clued in on whatever’s going on the Terran nods.
“Yeah?” he casually asks.
“May we ask you questions? Personal questions? We do not want to be rude.” Meeki then asks.
Uhhh…. Yeah sure! I’m an open book!” he concedes with a wide smile.
“You have family? Is other Terrans family?” Nodrin inquires.
“Ah… well… I suppose they’re like family. Thorn being the grumpy-ass dad. Devin, Simone and Brandy are like my siblings in a way. Jamie was…” the man hesitates, his smile faltering while on that specific part, ”-a bit more than that to me. Uhm… yeah… We definitely count.”
“Jamie is person Chak and Simone’s child is named after?” Meeki says gently for clarification.
“Uhm… yeah that’s right… they were our pilot for a long while and… um… yeah we uh… we had just started kinda dating before… they uhm… died.” Troy’s smile is completely gone from his face, “I took it pretty hard. But… that’s just how things are, we all can’t live to our gray-days. I wasn’t doing anyone any favors by being resentful about it, and I wasn’t the only one hurting, you know.”
A flash of sorrowful regret comes across the Gratt duo’s faces.
“Sorry, Troy.” Meeki apologizes.
“Much.” Nodrin agrees.
“It’s alright, really. It’s just weird talking about it outside the crew. The scar’s been healing for a bit too, although it still hurts. Which I think is a good thing, you know… that there is a lot of worth to miss, and a lot still around to hold on to.” Troy smirks with a shrug, “I still have a lotta life to hopefully live, and the best thing I can do is live it with everything it brings.”
“Not meant as insult…” Nodrin says with a bit of hesitancy, “But you hide much wisdom in you…”
“Wise? Ha! Naaah… thanks but Brandy’s right, I’m just a big nut-case.” Troy counters with a revived chuckle.
“Not sure what tree seeds in a container mean as teaseful insult… Do seeds not grow into big, mighty, beautiful trees?” Nodrin points out, “There’s more than one way to be wise, and more than one way to express wisdom. You are wise, Troy.”
The man’s face flushes from the assured compliment.
“Dang, uhm.. I guess… I mean… yeah thanks. Simone and I used to be the two meatheads but… even she has made me feel like a clueless dumbass by comparison sometimes. She picks up on things I don’t… like… apparently Jamie liked me for the longest time and laid the flirting on hard, and it all went over my head till Simone pointed it out. But you know what, that isn’t gonna happen again. Next time someone hits me up and stares me down trying to tell me something like that, I ain’t gonna miss it!” he vows.
Meeki looks back at Nodrin and shares more chittering between them. The only words that Troy catches in the exchange are ‘Unsure’ and ‘ask’.
“Do you flirt with people you like?” Meeki questions.
“Oh, hell no. Nope. No thanks.” Troy immediately replies in a laugh.
The confused Gratt look between each other again before addressing the man.
“You feel no immediate attraction?” Nodrin guesses.
“Not exactly. Brandy’s like that though. No… I’m just clueless and don’t want to be misunderstood because I don’t really pick up on things and say things that I worry would be misconstrued… you know… so I’ll just hang until it happens my way I guess. I’m in no rush either. Sure, companionship to me is something I feel like I need, but there’s a lotta things I need as a person. I’m always myself, so whoever it may be would have to see that and think ‘yeah, I can put up with that’, you know.”
“I think I understand.” Meeki nods, “Nodrin and me… we’re experiencing something… and want to see if it’s something to… look into. We don’t know for certain, if it is what it could be. We are curious… if you…” Meeki struggles making sure she explains correctly in galactic standard, “...have interest. We don’t want to misread signs.”
Raising an eye tuft Troy opens his mouth to respond, but the universe has other plans. The notification of their food delivery comes up following with a gentle ring.
“Oh hell yeah! Pizza’s here!” he cheers, “Sorry guys I gotta go get it, mind letting my legs go for a sec?”
The Gratt slide off the Terran and uncoil their tails, allowing him to get up and jog to the door.
“I suppose not…” Meeki says in Gratt to her bondmate.
“Perhaps we should be more direct?” Nodrin replies, “Though… it’s admittedly terrifying… and maybe it’s for the best if we ignore it for the time being.”
“But… what if it becomes something more without speaking of it? We see him rather often and will presumably continue to do so. It may not… but… Dearest…” Meeki trails off.
“I know, love. I know. You’re right.” Nodrin grants, “I just… I wasn’t expecting this. Neither of us were. Perhaps we're overreacting because it has never happened before and I don’t think Terran minds bond the same as ours does. Regardless of how we handle this, we must keep that in consideration. Troy has become a good friend, no need to spoil that because of something that might occur. So… after we eat, let’s at least educate him on what it means and see how he responds. Sounds like a fair, measured start?”
Meeki releases air through her neck vents in a drawn sigh.
“Yes, I agree.”
Back at the entrance, Troy opens the door without the screening feature. Which catches him off guard to see an unknown tall and thin Terran woman in a business uniform standing at attention. No pizza is sight.
“Oh uhhh… sorry, can I help you?” Troy mutters as he quickly brushes his head fur with his hand, while the other rests on his hip where a concealed weapon awaits use.
The woman narrows her eyes in confusion and is also caught off guard, having not expected this frat-boy looking man to have answered.
“I don’t know… maybe? Is… is there a Simone Thatch here?” she asks.
“Uh… nope. No one here by that name.” Troy answers in technical truth before shrugging “Sorry.”
Raising an eye tuft the woman crosses her arms.
“Ah… well she’s a redhead and pretty muscular. Okay she’s very muscular. Like… very. Does she sound familiar to you?” she questions.
“Lookin’ for some friend or ex of yours or something?” Troy asks to dodge.
“Something like that I suppose… It's been so long that I’m not sure what we’d call ourselves, but when I caught wind of someone matching her description to a tee I had to come and try my chances.” she explains before looking around and leaning in closer to the man, “Look, I know she has hefty charges against her, I promise this isn’t about that. I also know that she has at the very least been here, so if you could just tell her that her old friend from the academy would lIke to talk with her, that would be great. She can contact me at my private office.” the woman informs in a whisper as she holds out a small card with contact info.
“No promises…” Troy replies with a shrug as he casually accepts it, with his Lens he runs one of Devin’ scanning programs to check for anything off about the info-rectangle.
“That’s fine. Thank you.” the woman says before turning around and leaving without another word.
Finding nothing odd about the card Troy watches her leave, nearly running into a small driven hover cart. The woman apologizes but continues on off until she’s out of sight. The hover cart on the other hand recovers and glides right up to the man.
“Perfect. You order the Terran Pizza and drinks?” the Hallo delivery driver assumes.
Troy looked to the seated two and a half foot tall round insectoid holding the steering apparatus with their elephant-like trunk.
“Guilty as charged!” Troy nods with a big smile, “What gave it away?”
“Heh! Funny guy. Alright just a moment, I’ll get your order ready.” the Hallo replies as they turn around in place via a swivel seat and open an accessible rear compartment.
“Sure thing. Boss keep’n ya busy?” Troy says as he leans against the doorframe.
“Don’tcha know it… apparently some thorax-brain accidentally dropped their shuttle down an entire core and there’s talk about those…. Whatcha call ‘em… the newcomers? Not the Squilla folk… the… Gratt! Right! Seems like some even bigger thorax-brains thought it would be smart to shoot up their embassy. I know they’re the new Deathworlders on the block, but come on ya whackos we live in a civilized society. At least tryin’ to, ya know?. Anyways people are overreacting and ordering in their meals in mass right now as if the Gratt are gonna seek out vengeful justice or something. Garbage. But hey, means I work more to feed the larva waiting back home.” the delivery person rants as they pull out Troy’s order and hands it over.
“Incidentally the Gratt waiting to enjoy this appreciates you and your work. Thanks!” the Terran replies as he starts to part.
“No joke? Well how ‘bout that, be sure to tell ‘em that our service is a proud attender to all kinds across the stars. We may not have the best grub, but we got a bit of everything for anyone. Anywho, I got a lot more orders- oh! Hey, I know it can be seen as rude but can I ask ya a Terran biology question? It’d help me settle a bet with a coworker.” the Hallo ventures.
“Uh, sure.” Troy shugs.
“Are your larvaes really born without teeth?”
“Not usually, no teeth.” the man answers, now wondering if there are genetic exceptions.
“So the Net was right on that one? Huh… Well thanks bud, I may be out a few dozen credits but.. Ehh…”
“Sure thing. Good luck with the rest of your night!” Troy chuckles as he turns around to hand over the pizza and inform everyone of the surprise Terran visitor.
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Panting with her whole body twitching, Chak sat mounted on Simone’s lap after another spark of impromptu intense sessions of intimacy.
The Terran places a hand on the back of the fur covered Cali neck as she breathes in euphoria.
“Damn… we’re really going at it tonight…” Simone chuckles, though she knows the reason all too well, “Not complaining… but we’re gonna have to sleep at some point hun.”
I don’t want this night to end… I really don’t…” Chak admits softly, “Tomorrow we’re going to wake up and maybe never have a chance like this again. I know it’s foolish, but I keep imagining that life we want and if today at all resembles it… I want to relish this for as long as possible.
Simone nods in understanding and shifts her body against Chak’s as she embraces the princess in a secure hug.
“We’ll get there. I promise.” she says as she holds the love of her life, “Nothing's gonna stop us from getting there. Right?”
“Right…” the Cali eventually replies as she pulls back to then fond over her Terran, “It’s just… I’ve noticed Terran stories like ours often end in tragedy. I know it’s childish… but I can’t help but to keep worrying.”
“You know we’re both too stubborn to let that happen.” Simone jests as she returns the fond-ing with her own hands, “You told me in a tub like this one… that your favorite stories were the ones where despite the odds, the heroes pull through. We’re gonna pull through. It’s not going to be easy, but we will. I’m choosing to believe that with every fiber of my being. I promise you… That’s going to be our story.”
Chak’s eyes narrow, combatting the crying gray with bright hopeful loving red flickers.
“Do you think it would be possible for us to be married sooner rather than later? After we make contact with the Union President? I don’t think I can wait until this is all over. I know it would be a perfect occasion to celebrate our well earned lives together… and the good ending Terran stories usually end with such an event… but I desperately want to be your wife, and you to be mine. I know it functionally won’t change our day to day… but… why wait?” the Cali says as she plants her forehead to Simone’s.
“That’s not going to be our ‘ending’ regardless Chak…” Simone reassures, “After this business with galactic-scale nightmares is all over, we’ll still have a whole other perilously taxing adventure to navigate; Raising a family and living our lives. As I said, we’ll get there. As for marriage… if we don’t find ourselves in deep shit to dig ourselves out of first, nothing would make me happier than to marry you at the very next opportunity… screw it…”
Leaning in, the two deeply kiss with reserved, lovingly tired passion for a few minutes. After they separate, Chak considers keeping the night going a bit longer, but she admits to herself how low her own stamina is at this moment. In addition Simone is right, they need to sleep.
“Then it’s settled. Leave the arrangements to me then, but I’ll be sure to share everything that isn’t a surprise with you for mutual approval.” Chak says.
Simone smiles as she brushes the back of her fingers along the side of Chak’s face.
“Once were hitched I’ll finally be able to do that thing where I wake you up with breakfast while wearing nothing but an apron…” she teases.
Chak’s eyes flash brilliantly as she grasps the redhead on her shoulders.
What Terran cultural practice is that and why hasn’t that happened yet!?” the Cali demands in astonishment, her mind clearly elsewhere.
Simone laughs aloud, shaking her head.
“I’m kidding that’s just a- Well it’s a thing but- uhmm… Anyways you’re a very light sleeper Chak, it’s not like I could easily surprise you with something like that.” the Terran points out.
“Simone. I will pretend to sleep if I must, but this must be doneplease!” the princess bargains.
You got it, you absolute horndog…” Simone chuckles sweetly before giving the Cali a brief kiss, “When I have the chance, I’ll see what I can do. Now before I rile you up again, it’s time I call it for the night. I’ll go change the bedsheets and we’ll hit the sack. Do you mind if you could…
“Oh! Yes of course.” the princess agrees as she fully pulls herself free from her fiance. In all respects.
Simone stands up from the tub and slowly pulls herself free. Grabbing two towels she underhand tosses the spare over to Chak as she soon follows out.
“I’ll clean and pack away our new intimate additions.” Chak volunteers as she begins to fluff her fur dry,
Permanent additions… for sure.” Simone replies while walking over to a dresser for spare bed sheets and blankets.
-
The Terran and Cali cuddle bare together under the warmest, softest, fluffiest blankets Simone has ever known. It’s like sleeping nude in a fantasy cloud of warm cozy bliss.
So of course she and Chak awaken not a few hours after falling asleep together.
Chak awakens easily enough from her natural light Cali slumber, but the normally heavy sleeping Simone wakes from a well trained ear. Something she’s instinctually immediately alert to from her days in the military.
Muffled weapon’s fire.
Thankfully, their room isn’t the one being accosted. However whoever is below them is encountering a horrifying late night visit.
Simone sits up with a protective arm over the Princess, still fearing that at any moment someone armed will barge in to give them the same treatment.
“Put your suit on. Contact the others.” Simone instructs as she hurries to put on some clothes. Having to resort to her dress with the new jacket on top.
“I will, but I’m coming with you, Simone.” Chak responds already halfway fitting on her power suit.
Simone wants to argue, but if they were the next target it makes sense for them to not stay put and stick together.
“I can’t be sure, but that sounded like a pulse rifle on a lower output.” the Terran says as she waits for her fiance to finish preparing.
Hooking their item bags to her hips, Chak nods.
“I believe you’re right.” she agrees.
“Which means they just tried to ‘silently’ kill a non-deathworlder, or knock a Deathworlder out.” Simone figures as she and Chak pace to the door.
“I’m not getting a response from anyone.” Chak reports, “I don’t think my signal is getting out at all.”
“Well at least we know they’re already on the way… If they’re not preoccupied with something else…” the redhead says before reaching a hand up to the indicator, but no hard light panel appears, “Power black out? Shit. Something big is happening.”
“Something that we’re not the priority of?” Chak replies a bit hopeful.
“With that bounty of yours? Yeah, I don’t think we’re the target.” the Terran notes as she begins to process the idea of locking themselves in and waiting it out.
“Then… we should stay?” the Cali says, though by her tone it’s clear she’s thinking quite the opposite.
“That might be the smarter thing to do. Barricade ourselves in, wait out and hope that whatever’s going on isn’t spreading to more patrons of this place.” Simone reasons to convince herself more than anything.
“But…” Chak says softly in expectation.
Simone looks back at her almost apologetically.
“Coming in there was a family with kids in the lobby… I have to make sure whoever’s getting hit either deserves it, or if it’s someone who really needs someone else like me to step in.” she says.
Chak nods.
“Then let’s step in. Do what you do best, and I’ll be right here with you.” she grants.
Waiting for just a moment, as if giving herself a final chance to back out, Simone finally reaches down for the emergency manual handle.
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2023.03.24 16:39 concernedbrother9385 My sister is neglecting her children but DCFS/OCS won't investigate since it does not meet their criteria.

I apologize if this is the wrong sub and if someone has a better suggestion please let me know. I was wondering if anyone has any advice of where I can go from here. I made the awful decision of filing a neglect report on my sister through DCFS and OCS. They sent me a letter stating they will not pursue an investigation because it does not meet their criteria. I don't know if I can appeal this or report it to someone else or something.
My sister is neglecting her children. They are not in school at ages 7 and 5 and have never been enrolled. Supposedly they are being homeschooled but I doubt it. My sister split with her fiance, the father of two children, over six months ago and still is not working. They are living in filthy conditions as can be seen in the pictures. Two of the pictures are bedrooms, one a living room and the fourth is the garage. She discontinued trash service so everything is going in the garage now. I am not really familiar with imgur but I think it worked. They didn't even have shoes until our mother bought them some in November. My sister has a third child who chooses to live with his dad because of how disgusting it is.
As far as I know there is no drug use or abuse and this is why I think DCFS didn't act. However, my sister is definitely an alcoholic.
I think my sister is severely depressed and needs a lot of help. Her life has not gone great for her. But she has cut everyone off. She doesn't talk to anyone and she told her immediate family that she was going to take the kids and leave and no one would be able to find her.
Is there anything I can do here? Anyone else I can report this to?
https://imgur.com/EF8tn42 https://imgur.com/gRVw4wx https://imgur.com/nHv6m8x https://imgur.com/rhzPxkU
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2023.03.24 16:37 concernedbrother9385 My sister is neglecting her children but DCFS/OCS won't investigate since it does not meet their criteria.

I apologize if this is the wrong sub and if someone has a better suggestion please let me know. I was wondering if anyone has any advice of where I can go from here. I made the awful decision of filing a neglect report on my sister through DCFS and OCS. They sent me a letter stating they will not pursue an investigation because it does not meet their criteria. I don't know if I can appeal this or report it to someone else or something.
My sister is neglecting her children. They are not in school at ages 7 and 5 and have never been enrolled. Supposedly they are being homeschooled but I doubt it. My sister split with her fiance, the father of two children, over six months ago and still is not working. They are living in filthy conditions as can be seen in the pictures. Two of the pictures are bedrooms, one a living room and the fourth is the garage. She discontinued trash service so everything is going in the garage now. I am not really familiar with imgur but I think it worked. They didn't even have shoes until our mother bought them some in November. My sister has a third child who chooses to live with his dad because of how disgusting it is.
As far as I know there is no drug use or abuse and this is why I think DCFS didn't act. However, my sister is definitely an alcoholic.
I think my sister is severely depressed and needs a lot of help. Her life has not gone great for her. But she has cut everyone off. She doesn't talk to anyone and she told her immediate family that she was going to take the kids and leave and no one would be able to find her.
Is there anything I can do here? Anyone else I can report this to?
https://imgur.com/EF8tn42 https://imgur.com/gRVw4wx https://imgur.com/nHv6m8x https://imgur.com/rhzPxkU
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2023.03.24 11:15 Captive-Photography CPS false positives.

I had my son taken from me back in October. I made a huge mistake and I regret it every day. But I have been complying with everything that is being asked of me. CPS gives me random Ua's a couple times a week. At first I was gladly taking them knowing that I was following all of the rules and have not touched a drug since the night I overdosed. I have only had a few tests come back clean through the county. I will test positive for meth one day and heroin the next. I've tested positive for kratom, meth, heroin, fentanyl, alcohol, and ketamine. My doctor is behind me one hundred percent and has put in 52 orders for me to do tests at the clinic. I have taken tests at the clinic multiple times on the same day as the county tests me and those tests come back negative. Last week I tested positive for fentanyl and had my visits reduced to one day a week completely supervised even though my test from the same day at the clinic came back negative for everything. I've stopped taking my medications for the time being to try to figure out what is causing these false positives. I feel like my social worker is working against me and that because my son is such an amazing kid they have someone lined up to adopt him if I continue to fail these tests. I'm scared. I love my son with all of my heart. I admit that I made a huge mistake and lapse in judgement. But my son is very well cared for and has never gone without anything. He is loved, safe and my fiance and I have given him an amazing life up to this point. I spend all the money that doesn't go toward bills on him. I was taking him places and teaching him something new every day. His birthday is in two weeks and the way it looks I'm not going to get to be with him on his special day. I had an amazing party planned for him. He's going to be 4 and loves science. I'm at a total loss. I'm trying to stay positive but this hurts me so bad. Does anyone have some good advice.
I live in wisconsin.
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2023.03.23 19:50 itsharlit please give advice

How to get over this? m28 f26
How to get over a insane relationship? F(26) M(28)
Me f26 and my fiance m28 are probably gonna go our separate ways soon. We've been together since last December. He forced me away 8 hours from my home to a place where I know no one in November. Yes Im immature and have Asperger's autism and a range of mental health problems including severe depression and anxiety. I have no social skills.He texted me while he was at work that I better figure out what's wrong because this isn't a battle he can continue to fight. He knew I was like this before he brought me up here told me that I wouldn't have to worry about a job until I got better. Well with no help and being on edge and somewhere that I'm not used to, also having no social skills so I don't know how to speak to his family we currently live with I haven't gotten the help I've needed especially with problems since when me and my fiance got together I had just gotten out of a 6 year abusive relationship. He said I need to let stuff go it's not like I want to feel this way though I've just had a really difficult life due to my bad decisions since I was 19. Im feel like a child, extremely depressed full of anxiety, that I'll never be close to anyone, plus crazy and suicidal. I would have to stay with my mom if I went back home and have to go back home who has a huge history of drug abuse and is going crazy herself. How do I get over this? I have maybe 3 ppl in my family that care that I'm at least alive but I lost everything I had and any friends I had.
Yes I've already posted this essay in other Subreddits, no one's replied which tells me that no matter what hope I have I'm basically just surviving at this point. It's no one's problem to care about which I understand I just don't know what to do anymore. Why can't I be someone else?
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2023.03.23 15:03 itsharlit how to get over this?

How to get over this? m28 f26
How to get over a insane relationship? F(26) M(28)
Me f26 and my fiance m28 are probably gonna go our separate ways soon. We've been together since last December. He forced me away 8 hours from my home to a place where I know no one in November. Yes Im immature and have Asperger's autism and a range of mental health problems including severe depression and anxiety. I have no social skills.He texted me while he was at work that I better figure out what's wrong because this isn't a battle he can continue to fight. He knew I was like this before he brought me up here told me that I wouldn't have to worry about a job until I got better. Well with no help and being on edge and somewhere that I'm not used to, also having no social skills so I don't know how to speak to his family we currently live with I haven't gotten the help I've needed especially with problems since when me and my fiance got together I had just gotten out of a 6 year abusive relationship. He said I need to let stuff go it's not like I want to feel this way though I've just had a really difficult life due to my bad decisions since I was 19. Im feel like a child, extremely depressed full of anxiety, that I'll never be close to anyone, plus crazy and suicidal. I would have to stay with my mom if I went back home and have to go back home who has a huge history of drug abuse and is going crazy herself. How do I get over this? I have maybe 3 ppl in my family that care that I'm at least alive but I lost everything I had and any friends I had.
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2023.03.22 22:56 itsharlit How to get over this? m28 f26

How to get over a insane relationship? F(26) M(28)
Me f26 and my fiance m28 are probably gonna go our separate ways soon. We've been together since last December. He forced me away 8 hours from my home to a place where I know no one in November. Yes Im immature and have Asperger's autism and a range of mental health problems including severe depression and anxiety. I have no social skills.He texted me while he was at work that I better figure out what's wrong because this isn't a battle he can continue to fight. He knew I was like this before he brought me up here told me that I wouldn't have to worry about a job until I got better. Well with no help and being on edge and somewhere that I'm not used to, also having no social skills so I don't know how to speak to his family we currently live with I haven't gotten the help I've needed especially with problems since when me and my fiance got together I had just gotten out of a 6 year abusive relationship. He said I need to let stuff go it's not like I want to feel this way though I've just had a really difficult life due to my bad decisions since I was 19. Im feel like a child, extremely depressed full of anxiety, that I'll never be close to anyone, plus crazy and suicidal. I would have to stay with my mom if I went back home and have to go back home who has a huge history of drug abuse and is going crazy herself. How do I get over this? I have maybe 3 ppl in my family that care that I'm at least alive but I lost everything I had and any friends I had.
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2023.03.22 00:23 nonamelikethiz questions - HELP!! ive never done any sort of weed nor do i know what im talking about when it comes to this

Somebody please help me. ** indicates questions if TL;DR. Long story but stick with me- I accidentally ate 6 THC or HHC cones (300mg of hhc) thinking they were candy that my fiancé had left me and I'm still feeling kinda funny days afterwards. i feel tired and my hands are sweaty and it feels like my moods are switching very quickly and my thoughts are going super quick but my body is slow and amused at everything. i havent been able to sleep alot- i think i got 4 hours of sleep last night. I hallucinated like crazy saturday (3/18/23) and saw heaven and hell and ended up in a physical hospital because my family couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. I am no longer seeing physical hallucinations but i still feel like im seeing daydreams in my head which ive had before this instance but now whenever i see daydreams in my head i start to freak out. but i keep mood switching from panic attacks to being zoned and high the fuck out. I have never done edibles before and this was the first time. i genuinely thought that it was candy that my fiance had left me. does anybody know about the effects this stuff could have on my small body and if I could still be detoxing? i feel really really weird and almost schizophrenic but I have never had a history of schizophrenia before. i do take cymbalta 30mg for anxiety and depression and have thyroid issues, but whenever i ended up in the hospital they screened any and all physical things that could be wrong with me and nothing showed, (until i took a drug screen today and THC had shown in my urine because i went to a psych doctor and told them what happened). Could delta 9-hhc thc stuff whatever interact with my medications and potentially mess with my brain? is there a quicker way i can detox this stuff out of my system? is there any other side effects that i should be on the look out for and will they keep going away with time? Here is a picture of what I ate, keep in mind i ate 6 of them and I have NEVER done any sort of marijuana, drugs, or alcohol in any shape or form. I ate them Saturday (03/18/23) at around 8:00pm and started feeling the crazy effects around 9:30pm until my sister arrived. I still feel like im detoxing today (03/21/23) with cold, sweaty hands and loss of appetite with crazy mood swings. Please help and explain to me what the hell i ate... and maybe with reliable sources too ive never experienced anything like this and im not experienced in knowing what side effects and stuff i should be having. Thanks. I also added a picture of what I thought I had eaten. Also I am around 130 lbs, 5 foot, and female if anybody knows how that could effect such a small body. Thanks again. i feel stoned out of my mind 🤣.
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2023.03.21 22:00 unsurewhattodothrow My (26F) Fiance (27M) and I are 12weeks pregnant, buying a house, but I found out he partied with a random woman he met on his business trip and hasn't mentioned their new friendship to me at all. What do I do?

TLDR: fiance hungout with random women and partied on his work trip struggling with his mental and physical health for many months, never told me about one woman he's now connected to and inappropriately flirts with her through text and probably in person one on one. What do I do? I'm pregnant with our first and we're buying a house.
I'm (26F) 12 weeks pregnant, closing on buying a house with my (27M) fiance, started a new job for better pay for us 3 weeks ago, and my fiance went on a business trip but wasted most of his time going to casino and clubs partying, with a random woman we "knew of from Facebook and through mutuals, but never officially met (until he did while there).
This is our first baby to be together. After 4 and a half years together, we're finalizing home ownership at the end of the month. I felt this was all about us growing together now but the way hes acting lately it's like he wants a snippet of the single life with partying with random people, beautiful women, including one on one time with said other women for dinners and more casino time. His partying behavious has increased for the last several months. He owns his own business, and it's expanded so much while we've been together into making a few million a year, a bigger team, and expanding to another town whoch adds to his pressure and work stress. He has random people from our town and neighboring towns that we "know of" (small territory) on social media for advertising reach, but this one woman he ended up deleting since she annoyingly posted a lot, I'll call her Valene. He went to the city for 3 weeks to pick up products and get one of our dogs neutered, so because of the surgery, he stayed 5 days longer.
He went to the casino/clubs around 5-10 times at least, on weekends and week days, including when the trip was extended for our dog's neutering. During this he caught up with an old friend(23F) I'll call her Lisa that we both know from highschool also an ex of his, no feelings leftover, just platonic but very beautiful woman and into fitness. His time with her, he was letting me know ahead of time when they were going to hang out and got food, most times with another guy friend of his as well. Including over a weekend air bnb rental in the next city but she ended up going home when they got into a dumb drunken fight (from the sounds of it) while also all binge drinking and doing drugs together all night before that weekend.
He saw the younger woman Valene (23F) that he had on facebook but deleted because she posted so much, at a party casino his first night and they recognized eachother, he told me that she was looking and walking with a drink staring at him and accidentally walked into some other person. They didn't have eachother online for a month or 2, but then recently I saw her reacting and commenting on his posts like they know eachother, after he told me he already deleted her the first night he mentioned to me he saw her. Now they're connected online again a couple weeks after his trip. I found that odd, and he never mentioned anything to me about her. He told me he was struggling in pain physically and mentally more so during his trip which is why he was partying. His flight was delayed for 2 days since the airline didn't accept the original kennel our dog was shipped with (too small, they never said anything from here) so he had to buy a new one.
I know it isn't right to snoop in your partners phone, but I wanted to know why they were connected and he didn't mention anything to me, I figured that they ran into eachother one night out again and that was it but they did more like exchanging numbers, texted the next day, went for food and to the casino until 2am again, she texts him like they're long time friends but with some flirting, that I'll get into more detail about.
He told her his flight was moved for an extra couple days, said let's do something, that he'll take her out to eat and tried getting her when he was at a restaurant already, she said "atleast give me 4 hours i look like shit". She has an almost 1 year old from a cheating ex that she left last year so she needed to arrange a babysitter ahead of time as well, and asked if he could pay, he responded "never even fucked yet and I'm already paying your babysitter hahahaha. That was a joke though <3" which i feel has crossed a line. She said "your dime my time" "hahaha I can say the same thing" "Okay until midnight?" he said,"2am lets go casino again" "I got one for all night" "trying to sleepover? Hahaha. " "No, I don't want to wake my baby up in the middle of the night you wish." "hahaha actually, I dont, but it was a joke." Then they ended up hanging out, and he picked her up, and I can tell that he dropped her off around 2am by their following texts.
A couple weeks later she was messaging him every day to every few days until just over a week ago, she was saying things like "sup fuck" "hey how's it going you make it back up" "Good morning" "hey" "have you seen my dad up there? He doesn't talk to me anymore. Reinstated daddy issues lol" "What do you mean? " "nvm" she also asked if he has snap, he said he does, but he doesn't use it. She said "well?" "And I'm not going to use it."
She seems to initiate all their convos, they kinda catch up, but since they don't hang out now, it's minimal. But she also messaged. " I have a question for you. You told me you're allowed to have female friends, but you told me you didn't tell your wife about meeting me. Why?" He said "yea so, idk lol" "okay" "you can tell her idc" "that would be the dumbest thing as a woman" and he went off on his rant saying "I meet so many people everywhere I go I don't discuss everything, I hungout with a ton of people when I was there male female it's normal life. Plus, most times, we hung out to party or go eat idk it's no big deal. I did get confused having to pay for your babysitter, haha, but you're a student all good. How come u ask haha" she said "idk" then changed the topic.
There's been more frequency of him having no patience for me, and he gets very upset and angry when i try to talk and communicate my needs in our relationship, but I'm hurt that he can pretend to be all nice with these other random women,, pay for their babysitter, take them for food, party with them in a whole different city. I wanna let him know if his flirting is too much for me (I let him flirt with other women many times while we we're out together but I was there and went home with him). He always defends that attraction to other people is natural, flirting is sometimes good for his business or getting deals etc. If this woman wasn't attractive, he wouldn't even have hung out with her and now be "friends". It's not like they're long time friends she's a random new woman from the bar from a month ago.
How do I bring it up, if at all, with his anger problems? Any advice is welcome. I'm anxious about dealing with this only now that I'm pregnant with him, so confused with my feelings and what to do. Would personal or couples therapy help us through this? I thought of saying, "I noticed her commenting. Did you end up meeting with her?" Or something along the lines to not push him into anger. Or should this be a conversation at all initiated by me?
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2023.03.21 21:57 unsurewhattodothrow My (26F) Fiance (27M) made friends with a random woman he used to have on social media on his business trip after running into her out partying, then went for food with her alone and hasn't told me yet. I'm 12 weeks pregnant and he did this a week after we found out we are before he left.

TLDR: fiance hungout with random women and partied on his work trip struggling with his mental and physical health for many months, never told me about one woman he's now connected to and inappropriately flirts with her through text and probably in person one on one. What do I do? I'm pregnant with our first and we're buying a house.
I'm (26F) 12 weeks pregnant, closing on buying a house with my (27M) fiance, started a new job for better pay for us 3 weeks ago, and my fiance went on a business trip but wasted most of his time going to casino and clubs partying, with a random woman we "knew of from Facebook and through mutuals, but never officially met (until he did while there).
This is our first baby to be together. After 4 and a half years together, we're finalizing home ownership at the end of the month. I felt this was all about us growing together now but the way hes acting lately it's like he wants a snippet of the single life with partying with random people, beautiful women, including one on one time with said other women for dinners and more casino time. His partying behavious has increased for the last several months. He owns his own business, and it's expanded so much while we've been together into making a few million a year, a bigger team, and expanding to another town whoch adds to his pressure and work stress. He has random people from our town and neighboring towns that we "know of" (small territory) on social media for advertising reach, but this one woman he ended up deleting since she annoyingly posted a lot, I'll call her Valene. He went to the city for 3 weeks to pick up products and get one of our dogs neutered, so because of the surgery, he stayed 5 days longer.
He went to the casino/clubs around 5-10 times at least, on weekends and week days, including when the trip was extended for our dog's neutering. During this he caught up with an old friend(23F) I'll call her Lisa that we both know from highschool also an ex of his, no feelings leftover, just platonic but very beautiful woman and into fitness. His time with her, he was letting me know ahead of time when they were going to hang out and got food, most times with another guy friend of his as well. Including over a weekend air bnb rental in the next city but she ended up going home when they got into a dumb drunken fight (from the sounds of it) while also all binge drinking and doing drugs together all night before that weekend.
He saw the younger woman Valene (23F) that he had on facebook but deleted because she posted so much, at a party casino his first night and they recognized eachother, he told me that she was looking and walking with a drink staring at him and accidentally walked into some other person. They didn't have eachother online for a month or 2, but then recently I saw her reacting and commenting on his posts like they know eachother, after he told me he already deleted her the first night he mentioned to me he saw her. Now they're connected online again a couple weeks after his trip. I found that odd, and he never mentioned anything to me about her. He told me he was struggling in pain physically and mentally more so during his trip which is why he was partying. His flight was delayed for 2 days since the airline didn't accept the original kennel our dog was shipped with (too small, they never said anything from here) so he had to buy a new one.
I know it isn't right to snoop in your partners phone, but I wanted to know why they were connected and he didn't mention anything to me, I figured that they ran into eachother one night out again and that was it but they did more like exchanging numbers, texted the next day, went for food and to the casino until 2am again, she texts him like they're long time friends but with some flirting, that I'll get into more detail about.
He told her his flight was moved for an extra couple days, said let's do something, that he'll take her out to eat and tried getting her when he was at a restaurant already, she said "atleast give me 4 hours i look like shit". She has an almost 1 year old from a cheating ex that she left last year so she needed to arrange a babysitter ahead of time as well, and asked if he could pay, he responded "never even fucked yet and I'm already paying your babysitter hahahaha. That was a joke though <3" which i feel has crossed a line. She said "your dime my time" "hahaha I can say the same thing" "Okay until midnight?" he said,"2am lets go casino again" "I got one for all night" "trying to sleepover? Hahaha. " "No, I don't want to wake my baby up in the middle of the night you wish." "hahaha actually, I dont, but it was a joke." Then they ended up hanging out, and he picked her up, and I can tell that he dropped her off around 2am by their following texts.
A couple weeks later she was messaging him every day to every few days until just over a week ago, she was saying things like "sup fuck" "hey how's it going you make it back up" "Good morning" "hey" "have you seen my dad up there? He doesn't talk to me anymore. Reinstated daddy issues lol" "What do you mean? " "nvm" she also asked if he has snap, he said he does, but he doesn't use it. She said "well?" "And I'm not going to use it."
She seems to initiate all their convos, they kinda catch up, but since they don't hang out now, it's minimal. But she also messaged. " I have a question for you. You told me you're allowed to have female friends, but you told me you didn't tell your wife about meeting me. Why?" He said "yea so, idk lol" "okay" "you can tell her idc" "that would be the dumbest thing as a woman" and he went off on his rant saying "I meet so many people everywhere I go I don't discuss everything, I hungout with a ton of people when I was there male female it's normal life. Plus, most times, we hung out to party or go eat idk it's no big deal. I did get confused having to pay for your babysitter, haha, but you're a student all good. How come u ask haha" she said "idk" then changed the topic.
There's been more frequency of him having no patience for me, and he gets very upset and angry when i try to talk and communicate my needs in our relationship, but I'm hurt that he can pretend to be all nice with these other random women,, pay for their babysitter, take them for food, party with them in a whole different city. I wanna let him know if his flirting is too much for me (I let him flirt with other women many times while we we're out together but I was there and went home with him). He always defends that attraction to other people is natural, flirting is sometimes good for his business or getting deals etc. If this woman wasn't attractive, he wouldn't even have hung out with her and now be "friends". It's not like they're long time friends she's a random new woman from the bar from a month ago.
How do I bring it up, if at all, with his anger problems? Any advice is welcome. I'm anxious about dealing with this only now that I'm pregnant with him, so confused with my feelings and what to do. Would personal or couples therapy help us through this? I thought of saying, "I noticed her commenting. Did you end up meeting with her?" Or something along the lines to not push him into anger. Or should this be a conversation at all initiated by me?
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