So I joined this sub when I went into NC with my ex.

• BU January
• She moved out February
• NC March

I had to live in that house I never wanted (she did and I wanted an easy life, it was in a gangland/crime ridden/mice ridden area) for 2 more months until I could afford my own place moved out 2.5 weeks before the tenancy ended...today.
The day she moved out through her heavy tears she told me she'd be back to help with the painting and the cleaning up. 13 days later all hell broke loose (story on my profile for the details) so I had to do all the painting. After finishing work late I'd journey back over to the old place paint some more, journey to my new home and sleep. The only time her dad contacted me was to say when he'd pick up her stuff, I went back to finish painting the next day and saw scratch marks all over the walls...(her dad was obviously carrying bed frames and heavy wardrobe parts but still...) I took one look and thought, even if it was an accident, the paint can is RIGHT THERE.
Anyway, so apart from dealing with some passive aggressive crap I got finished the house. I did leave some wiping down for her family to do as i knew they'd (not the ex obviously) have to go back to collect the keys and drive them round to the agency so they'd want to do a once over so both sideget their deposits back.I'm all about doing the right thing but come on...I was dumped so obviously I'm going to say you're still pulling your weight here love!
Anyway, when the BU happened her parents were fucking awesome with me but as time got closer to today I was getting reactions to messages rather than messages from her parents (they would initiate first of course) so I noticed a change in their behaviour towards me, then I saw the amount of scratches all over the walls and thought...am I reading into this? But today I know for sure. Not a message from them. Nothing to say, "keys have been picked up"
So I'm (I know family always protects family BUT DAMN I WAS FUCKED OVER SO BADLY I THE BU) certain now I'm being made the villain.
The city was covered in the sun today so I went on a pub crawl with a book and I smoked a massive cigar to toast my longest relationship and my worst ever BU, I ranged my brother, told him all the above (my brother and I have a blunt relationship, we love eachother but we don't mince our words so I can always trust him) and he said, "Mate I love you, but fuck her. We all liked her, she WAS great. But mate, she honestly has shown just how emotionally immature and childish she is in handling this BU. It's a fitting end to know you've been made to be the cunt in this too. Thing is though, when she's ready to process the BU, she'll look back on this and want to fix it and by that I mean have no bad blood, she wouldn't be fucking stupid to believe that she'd have a chance with you again. Now it's upto you how you handle it but remember. - She told you weekly for 4 years she'd never leave you that you were "her future" - She left you - She silenced you about talking about the BU - She left you in that hellhole - YOU HELPED HER FUCKING PACK - YOU EXPLAINED TO HER PARENTS THE REASONS WHY SHE DID WHAT SHE DID AND THEY WOULDN'T HEAR IT YET 4 FUCKING PSYCHOLOGISTS ALL SAID YOU WERE RIGHT - She has been actively avoiding you in public and once you even saw her take a picture of you whilst she was walking behind you on the street - YOU DID ALL THE FUCKING PAINTiNG AND 90% CLEANING - There were marks all over the walls when you went back one more time - And not even a 'got your keys, thanks' from them? FUCK THAT FAMILY.
He was right.
I laughed and said, "want a laugh? (Ex) memory has always been so bad she didn't even tell her dad what things to pick up. When I went to do one last wipe down there was a bunch on stuff still in there EXPENSIVE SHIT TOO her dad probably thinks it's mine 🤣" We had a giggle and he said, "you did everything right in this BU. REMEMBER THAT. Now fuck off, I'm getting a pint myself"
So my brother is right.
A fitting end. A bridge truly burnt. A BU completely designed by her has made me into the bad guy. Backed up by her family. Shown through her and her dad's actions.
Cap doth'd. Bow taken. Chapter closed.

To whomever is reading this, I hope you're doing well and find the right person for your needs. That person may not be me-- I'm certainly not for everyone, but for the right someone? I'd like to be the last dominant, the last person, you'll ever want or need.
I've been in the lifestyle as a dominant for 14 years now. I am open to meeting IRL if we click, but I neither expect nor require it. I am 5'10'', 200 lbs, white, with short blonde hair and a full beard. You may or may not be into my looks. For the right girl, that would be completely secondary, because what I am, most of all, is intelligent, intense, and insatiable.
That could come across as arrogance or baseless bragging. So let me dig into it a bit and explain more what I mean. I am extremely psychological and cerebral in my dominance. Because of my hyper intuition and driven focus to dig into my partner, the connections I form can be deep in a way most aren't accustomed to, and, potentially overbearing. It has been reported that it can feel like my thumbs are pressing down on them or that they're being understood or seen in ways that they've never been before. Of course, this isn't a universal thing, but if we click, you may just notice a similar sensation as well. For better, and at times, for worse.
The main thing to understand is that I will *always* want more of you. More of your thoughts. More of your feelings. Sure, yes, more of your body as well. But not in isolation. It's always tied into other aspects of you. The right submissive will crave that attention. Find comfort and security in it. Addiction and dependency. The wrong one might find it toxic or panic inducing.
I could, truly, go on and on for a while now, but that would just take all the fun out of communicating via chat and other platforms and seeing how we work inter personally. So let me itemize the last few things you need to know before deciding to reach out or not.
-I am fine with all experience levels. I love to teach, train, guide, and condition. -I am find with most body types. Out right big girls usually aren't my thing, but I love curvy, thick, petite, almost everything. What I really seek isn't something artificially apparent, anyways. -My main kinks include: Humiliation, degradation, orgasm control/denial/conditioning, general conditioning, hypnosis, TPE, voyeurism, impregnation/breeding, and light to medium pain play. -I do require the willingness to share pics and verify. Not immediately, no. But in general, if you cant trust and submit to me in such a way, even with some reasonable restrictions or time to build that trust, then this just isn't for you. And that's okay. -I offer three levels of submission. Casual, Standard, and Full. I'm happy to go over them more in detail one-on-one and they aren't *completely* fixed designations. The important thing is to find a dynamic where *we both* can be happy, healthy, and satisfied with the structure and actual happenings that occur. From the lightest to the heaviest of protocols-- and the more the better. -I"m a gamer, a sports enthusiast, a weeb, a poet, an amatuer philosopher(ugh, right?), and someone who loves making people laugh. I am a dominant. That's not all I am.
Ultimately, I believe that submission is a choice. An intimate and incredible gift that is irreplaceable and to be treasured. I certainly have my dark and debatably abusive sides. But just as much if not more so, I am a bright, caring, and supportive person. I want to find someone I can help be the best they can be, just for me. All for me. I hope that's you. I hope to hear from you soon. Thank you for reading, and if you took the time to read it all, tell me three random things about you in your opening message to break the ice.

Does anyone have any suggestions for either individual bakeware pieces or even a bakeware set that meets some of the following criteria? I’m looking for something that first and foremost is cute. If I can’t put my pie into a picture of a cottage on a cool spring evening, then it’s not the pie dish for me. Second most important is portability. Something that comes with a lid would be super cool, so I can gift the pie to people and have them return the dish. Or even just for bringing on picnics. Third criteria should be kinda obvious by now. I mostly just make pies. So little pie dishes or ramekins are dope but maybe not so many cupcake trays or cake molds. Any brand recommendations or should I just thrift them.

PotatoWolfie: Where is it? Who moved it!? Here it is. Universe 76. I've always loved this place. Probably because I am labeled "Heart of the Universe." Eh, I don't think titles really matter.
*Jumps into Universe 76*
PotatoWolfie: There it is. One of my thrones! I love this place!
*Some guy randomly spawns nearby*
Mathew: Wow! What is this place?
*Emma, Josh, and Sophia spawn*
Emma: MATHEW! WHAT DID I SAY ABOUT JUMPING INTO RANDOM THINGS YOU FIND?!
Mathew: You said literally nothing about that.
PotatoWolfie: HEY! You! Outside my palace. Who are you people?
Mathew: Better question, who are you?
Emma: That is the same question.
Mathew: SHUT UP! I am trying to not get us killed.
PotatoWolfie: Oh so you think if I am wearing armor I am going to kill you?
Mathew: You left out that sword of yours. Also I am Mathew. My username is NeonNubula
Emma: I am Emma and my username is-
PotatoWolfie: I know your usernames. Yours is MysticMelody. What kind of usernames are these? Did an Ai generate them for you?
Josh: Yup. ChatGPT. MidnightMarauder is pretty dumb.
PotatoWolfie: ChatGPT? I was joking when I said that. Artificial intelligence can't do that. I have been stuck in here for years and even I know that.
Sophia: You have been stuck in Minecraft for years?
To be continued...

(Sorry about the format and everything I’m on mobile) I’m typing this on here because I can’t tell this to anyone rn. I’m so confused and feel slightly betrayed. My father passed away back when I was very young so I never had a chance to know him. It was just my mom and my siblings, I am happy with my life, my sister(18f) is graduating. And my other sister (16f) is starting a new job. And because of this new job, she asked me if I could search of her birth certificate and SSN as two forms of ID for her new job, so I went around our documents to look for them. While looking, I saw a small packet of photos. Thinking that it was pictures of when I was younger, I opened the packet. I was pictures of my mom and another man, I looked through the pictures confused. And then I saw the picture that confirmed my suspicions. My mom and the unknown man held a paper that happily said “Marriage License” I felt dizzy. How could I know have know of this? Where was he? Did they divorce? And if so, why? I’m just so confused and don’t know how to approach this.

Hey there! I hopr this is okay to post here. We just need some advice and directions. We have an 11 year old neutered male void floof named Princess Joe. He is a gentle giant and part of our pack. The original pack was 3 for around 8 years. However we foster kittens for the local shelter so it is always in flux.
Then a year or so ago we rescued a female tuxedo long hair about 4 years old named Madame Maddie. Everything was fine no real issues as Maddie prefers her alone time all the time and stays in our bedroom all the time. We even had to add her special private box in our bathroom.
Now about 3.5 months ago we adopted a beautiful younger York Chocolate female. She is probably 1 maybe 2 at the oldest. Now she spunky and the main pack is all young at heart. The youngest is 8. So she does add a huge difference to the environment.
Now Princess Joe is spraying! He is backing up wiggling his tail and marking. For some reason he keeps doing in the same few spots and areas around the house. We clean it up and he does it again. I have put fresh lavender down in the areas and he just moves to the other side and mark away.
Any tips tricks or directions to any information resources is greatly appreciated! Thank you fellow feline friends!

I’m looking to submit financially to a gentle dom that’s not just looking for a quick buck but actually likes the power exchange part of it. I’m for for any dom but I prefer guys that are in there 30s or 40s (I love a good dad bod 😏)

My wife and I recently upgraded from a Rhapsody Breeze King to the new split king Luxebreeze Soft (me) and Luxebreeze Medium Hybrid (wife). I have been sleeping on the Luxebreeze 2.0 Soft now for about 8 nights. I must say, I have an insane amount of shoulder blade pain on both shoulder blades.
Here are my deets:

• 195 lbs
• 5ft6in
• Side, back and sometimes tummy sleeper
• Wear a CPAP mask to sleep

For those folks who have the soft, what are your thoughts? Love it? Hate it? Am I not giving it enough of a chance? I feel like I lay down on the soft and I start getting dull back aches. I also bought the Tempurpedic Pro Mid pillow and feel like when on my back I wake up with cricks in my neck.
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Would appreciate any advice. I am considering using my swap out option with Tempurpedic (purchased through them) to the same bed my wife has. But wanted to ask the community first before committing to a decision.
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Thanks in advance!

Respect Appa

You've got to take care of yourself.

Sky bisons are a race of 10 ton mammals capable of manipulating air currents to allow flight. While they are quite large and powerful, they move through the air with a certain grace. It was through them that the ancient Air Nomads first developed the art of airbending, but just like the Air Nomads themselves the sky bison's numbers would dwindle over time.
As a calf, Appa bonded with the young Avatar Aang and the destiny of the two intertwined ever since. When Aang fled their home and became frozen for 100 years, both awoke to find the populations of the Air Nomads and sky bison alike were devastated. Appa soon became Aang and his friends' means of travelling the globe in order to save the world, and he was a loyal partner and trusted friend throughout.

Avatar: The Last Airbender Season & Episode = S#E# Katara and the Pirate's Silver = KPS Avatar: The Last Airbender The Art of the Animated Series =TAS Archived Nickelodeon Website = ANW The Search = TS 

Reference: 1. Nyla 2. Ty Lee 3. Mai 4. Aang 5. Katara 6. Toph 7. Sokka

Strength

• Lifting
  • Carries a large boulder while flying ^S1E14
  • Flips over two tanks simultaneously ^S1E17
  • Grabs a man binding Aang with chains and snaps the chains before dropping the man in the ocean ^S1E19
  • Picks up a tree and tosses it at a boar-q-pine, then throws the boar-q-pine a distance away all while suffering intense fatigue ^S2E16
  • [Limitation] Restrained by several sandbenders who ground themselves to the desert ^S2E16
  • Catches Long Feng's foot in his mouth and flings him a distance away ^S2E17
• Tackling
  • Tackles Nyla into a wall, creating a large hole ^S1E15
  • Overcomes Nyla in a head on tackle and crushes stone beneath his foot ^S1E15
  • Causes a cave in by slamming up against the walls of a cave ^S2E2
  • Tackles out a large stone door to a tomb ^S2E2
  • Busts through the roof of a hut on takeoff ^S2E16
  • Tackles through thick stone walls, sending the men clinging to them flying away ^S2E17
  • Knocks a giant spirit wolf a distance away ^TS
• Tail
  • Slaps his tail onto his own back, KOing Momo ^S2E4
  • Punts a man out a tent and off into the distance ^S2E16

Durability

• Concussive
  • Overpowered by a tornado and thrown to the forest below, and suffers no injuries ^S2E4
  • Falls asleep while flying, crashing through several trees upon recovery and digging up a trench in his landing, but is too exhausted to care ^S2E8
  • Begins crashing due to exhaustion, clearing a path through the ground in his wake, but gets up and attacks a moment later ^S2E8
  • Crashes into the ground, tearing up a path behind him ^S2E16
  • Tackled down a hill and slammed into a tree hard enough to break it, but immediately recovers ^S2E16
• Poison
  • Felled and weakened by Nyla's poison ^S1E15
  • Overwhelmed by Nyla's repeated poison strikes and collapses ^S1E15
  • Almost escapes binding, but is downed by darts of shirshu poison ^S2E16

Flight

• Evading projectiles
  • Evades several trebuchet projectiles while above the cloudline and continues to do so before catching the fallen Sokka shortly after ^S1E8
  • Weaves through catapult fire ^S2E2
  • Evades several boulders thrown by earthbenders ^S2E18
• Navigation
  • Navigates high waves amidst a storm, although a massive wave overwhelms them and Aang needs the Avatar State to save them ^S1E12
  • Flees from Foggy Swamp waterbenders, seemingly hopping across the surface of water ^S2E4
  • Stays ahead of the Foggy Swamp waterbenders through a heavily forested area ^S2E4
  • Flies through flaming hoops for a circus performance ^S2E16
• Limitations
  • Tries to maneuver around several waves thrown at him, but eventually caught and frozen into place ^S1E18
  • Overpowered by a tornado and thrown to the forest below ^S2E4
  • Pulled underground by Long Feng before he can react ^S2E16

Airbending

• Tail
  • Takes out several chunks of building with repeated air blasts ^S1E15
  • Blasts a group of men out an alleyway and takes off before more can catch up ^S1E16
  • Blasts Mai, Ty Lee, and bits of debris away ^S2E3
  • Blasts the same 2 people away again, sending them into a nearby stream ^S2E8
  • Sends out a wave of air that knocks away a swarm of buzzardwasps ^S2E16
  • Blasts a giant spirit wolf hard enough to slam into a rock ^TS
• Mouth
  • Pounces on a soldier and bites him, spitting him out into the a treetop ^KPS
  • Sneezes so that a sand sailer goes flying off and crashes into a dune ^S2E16
  • Sucks a cart of cabbages closer and then sucks up the cabbages ^S2E16

Teamwork

• Summoned with a whistle ^S1E9
• Sokka builds him armor ^S3E10
  • Made of metal and leather, and contains hidden compartments ^ANW
  • Leather armor is layered to defend from firebenders' attacks ^TAS
  • Armor resists two fire blasts, allowing Appa to keep flying smoothly ^S3E11
• Katara and Aang obscure Appa in a cloud as a disguise ^S3E02
• Aang obscures Appa in a cloud while flying ^S3E06
• Katara forms a bubble around Appa's head so he can breath underwater ^S3E10
• Katara forms a bubble around Appa's head to submerge underwater ^S3E16
• Toph forms a shield of rock around Appa's head that briefly defends from Azula's fireblasts as he escapes ^S3E10

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Think I forgot something? No, I didn't.

Everyday my cat will come up to me and use my leg like a scratch post? I don’t know how to best describe it but she comes up to me and does the motions of using a scratch post but it doesn’t hurt me at all. Like she will expose her nails but doesn’t pierce my skin if that makes any sense. Should I be correcting this behavior or is it a normal cat thing? This is my first time owning my own cat so I’m not sure.

So I knew little about Xanax. Just that its helpful for anxiety and if you take enough, it puts you to sleep. I have a hard time sleeping in general. I especially have a hard time sleeping after rolling/MDMA.
I went to EDC and rolled all 3 days(Never will again.) Therefore, I took half a Xanax bar each night to put me to sleep. I also drank HEAVILY right before entering EDC.
Holy heck, by the end of the festival, I’ve felt depression like I’ve never felt before. Each day was gradually less enjoyable. Despite knowing that the artists and music were better each day. It was odd seeing my entire rave family love the whole thing, yet I hated my experience at EDC. Getting to the hotel by the end of the festival, I was uncontrollably crying and was stuck with the thoughts of suicide. It’s been 6 days and I still feel like I absolutely hate myself. I mean I never felt content with myself to begin with, but it’s horrible right now. I ended up making a ton of reckless decisions and my friends noticed. I bought a whole new car, cat, phone. All to try and make myself happier.
I thought this was just the result of rolling. I’ve felt post roll depression before, but not like this. I just now found out that stopping Xanax causes depression. This is the first time I’ve taken Xanax three days in a row. I’ve taken it once or twice every couple weeks the past few months. Same dose; Half bar
Is it HIGHLY likely that it’s just the Xanax making me depressed and I should wait it out? It was only three days in a row of dropping Xan… How long could the depression last? What should I do in the meantime?

I got out of a toxic relationship a couple of weeks ago which really damaged my self esteem. It is making me feel like there are other things I need to get in order before dating. BUT this person does seem really great and like we might be a good match.
The first date was an okay dinner but things picked up with drinking. Today we are going to a museum and then walking along the promenade there. I’m a little anxious about how it’s gonna go with us sober. I just think it helps with the nerves but I KNOW if I want to really decide if we are good together this sober date is necessary.
But then I get so anxious. I don’t have the greatest job (admin assistant but not paying a whole lot), I live with roommates who don’t like visitors, and I’m gonna go to one of those boot camps to change careers. I’m mid 30s but it all feels like something someone a decade younger than I would be doing. It makes me self conscious.
I keep trying to tell myself if he’s the right person this won’t matter both because he’s not a judgmental person and because he sees me for me.
I know my friend is just kind of an idiot, but I was telling her yesterday that my ex would call me “dirt poor” (he made a shit ton in my eyes) and she told me that I should get to a place where someone cant say that to me. I said why can’t I be where I am now but meet someone who wouldn’t dare say that to anyone ever. Again I think she’s not the brightest in certain things but it did bring me down as I know many people think that way. Trying to believe this person is different.
I’m acting like it’s an engagement proposal lol. I’m an introvert who’s not a fan of dating. I don’t like letting people see me or letting people in — I don’t know what to wear. Omg I’m so nervous lollll

i’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year, we’re very solid and he’s never done anything to make me think that he would cheat, if anything the opposite as loyalty is a very important thing to him
but there’s this girl in his work who’s interested in the same sports teams as him etc. it started as a joke, the classic “oh is that your other girlfriend” but i’ve found myself now genuinely believing it and i’m worried it’s ruining our relationship
especially after i saw his messages (wasn’t prying his phone just kept going off so i glanced down) and they’d been sending each other like memes/updates about their team and stuff and it just made me feel so uncomfortable as that’s the way he and i first got together. we were just work friends and it started just like that and so i worry that the same thing might happen again and he’ll realise that this girl who doesn’t have all the issues that i have could make him happier
i’m really insecure rn in general, i’ve gained a lot of weight since we got together and that’s a major thing for me as i struggled with an eating disorder badly for many years before i met him so i don’t doubt that plays a part, but there’s also little things he says to me about her that just come across as suspicious but on HER part not his
like she calls him “champ” and “little man” despite being 3 years younger than him, says stuff like “this is why i love working with you” etc, and even things that i perceive to be backhanded like “oh i think me and your girlfriend would get on so well” when based on what he’s told me about her we have literally nothing in common?
anyway i’m not trying to rationalise it i know it’s unreasonable for me to be acting like this i was just giving some more context but does anyone have any advice on how to deal with these issues im having?

So for context, ive been dating my gf for about 8 months now. The last time we saw each other was end of february.
We both have busy lives so its understandable that we can go weeks even monthswithout seeing each other. Recently, I have been inviting her over just to hang out and watch some shows that we started together. These are the kind of dates we both like because we both are homebodies and shes always talking about finishing one of the shows but can't watch it without me there and even at one point I brought up us cooking together and finishing a show but I have brought up outside dates as well (like going for dinner, the cinema etc)
However for the past month, everytime we set a date, something always comes up. Either a family emergency, personal emergency, work emergency or just something that means she cant come. Like i understand these things happen and you cant control them so I'm not that mad about it. However it seems like it happens every single time we make plans and a part of me thinks shes lying about it but I want to give her the benefit of the doubt.
This time, I'm not doing okay mentally and things arent going to well, i just really want to see her because its been nearly 3 months since we last saw each other. I just wanted to hang out, order pizza and just hang out. I told her this, i explained how like this would really like to see her and it would cheer me up. I also said to her that if she cant make it or really doesnt want to go (trying to give her an out) just let me know now and I wont be upset I'll understand. She said it should be fine, she really wants to see me and that nothing is going to stop her from coming. She even took time off work and showed me so that we could possibly spend the weekend together.
Well, today rolls around and yep, you guessed it - emergency happened, family emergency this time and she wont be able to come as this emergency will last the whole weekend and that shes really sorry.
I ended up just crying and replied saying thats fine. Like for the past month I would make plans and wouldnt expect her to come so I couldnt be disappointed but this time I guess I got my hopes up and I was really excited to see her so the hurt I feel is unreal. I know its selfish of me to be upset because family emergencies happen and family comes first. She said she can come next week and at this point i dont want to agree and get my hopes up again. I know bringing it up with her is gonna cause an argument because it will come across like im being selfish.
So how do I bring this up that doesnt make it all about me? What do I say?. I just want her to understand im hurt but not make it about me

As the title implies, I am indeed looking for an older woman to care for
I am 34 6'2 Garden Work full-time but will make time for you I work on cars Work with wood Plays video games but not like I used to Will definitely spend time with you, please you how you wanna be pleased
I am not the best looking but I have a wonderful personality, I love to spoil, pamper, will definitely take care of you, go on dates, stay in and cuddle, spend quality time together, and anything to keep you happy!!
I'm looking for someone who doesn't judge, who loves to spend time together, who won't ghost, ignore, Who'll accept me for me, who is clingy, overall be yourself and I'll love you for you!
This is all I got for now, I'm sorry it's short but I've noticed a long post doesn't get me any messages, so if you're interested please feel free to message, I'll be waiting for you ❤️

The lingering symptoms from panic attacks suck and it’s impacting my quality of life. I quit work and stay in the house nearly all day. Before my first panic attack I used to love going out. Now I don’t want to do anything, all day seems like a constant battle with my symptoms. My vision is blurry, in public I feel like I’m going to pass out for no reason, I experience dizziness, my heart races, my mind races, it’s hard to concentrate, I get fatigued easily, my mood swings, nausea, and my fingers go numb.
I got blood work done, test done on my heart, and Ct scan. Everything came back normal. Sometimes I’m able to go a few days without the symptoms and boom they come back for a few days. It’s frustrating, sometimes I’ll just cry because it feels like my life will never be the same again. It feels like I’m losing my mind and dying. The constant symptoms are unbearable it’s hard living like this. I wish my life would go back to normal, but it’s difficult to see that happening. Can someone offer me any advice on how to get better?

So gf and I are gonna be apart for a few months and letting her take the switch. If I were to buy a new switch and totk would it be possible to only update to 1.1.1 or would it automatically give me the latest version?